The Tubman Solution

Happy Birthday FREEDOM

2011-09-07T16:21:00.001-04:00

Even though you hate me now, you will always be number one

7 Main Differences Between Rich And Poor People

2011-01-26T20:58:00.003-05:00

Rich or poor, which category do you fit in?

Most people want to be rich, but most of them are poor, why?

There must be some differences between rich people and poor people.

If you study carefully, you will find out why rich and successful people are able to produce amazing results in their life, and why some people are living in poverty.

To be rich and successful, you don’t need to be lucky, extremely hard working or you need to have a college diploma or a university degree.

What you need, is the right mindset and the right mindset will form the right habit. As a result, the right habit will lead you toward the financial abundance kind of lifestyle that you always desire.

So here are the 7 main differences between rich and poor people…

1. Rich people believe that they create their lives while poor people believe that life happens to them. Can you see why rich and successful people are able to create amazing results in their life right now?

It is simply because they are in control of their lives. They believe that they are the ones who is responsible for their lives, they are the ones who is creating their future, not the economy or the knowledge or luck.

On the other hand, poor people will always give excuses and blame on the circumstances. When they failed in their business, they will blame the economy, their boss, their family or anything that did not go according to their plan.

Whenever you believe that life happens to you, you will lose the power to change and the power to control your future. You must believe that you’re the one who is creating your future, not other people or events.

2. Rich people play the money game to win but poor people play the money game just not to lose money. This is a big mindset difference.

Have you ever seen people invest in the stock market? Some people are so afraid that they will lose their money and they form a mindset that blocks their creativity. They formed the mindset of ‘investing not to lose the money’.

However, rich and successful people know exactly how they need to think in order to win the game of money. They will think and act from the view of playing the game to win. Unlike poor people, they will never invest just not to lose the money.

3. Rich people think and focus on opportunities while poor people focus on obstacles. When you face with problems, what are you focus on?
Are you focus on the problems, thinking how bad the situation is going to be? Or are you focusing on the solution and thinking about how you can solve or even turn the situation into opportunity?

Think about this carefully. No matter who you are, you will definitely face with all kinds of choices in your life. And when you need to decide to move on, try to notice on you thinking, what do you focus on, the solution, or the problem?

4. Rich people dare to dream big, poor people think small. When I tell my parents that I want to make a million dollar, they will tell me, “Why do you need so much money? You can live a very good lifestyle if you got a job that has a good pay. You don’t need to be a millionaire.”

I don’t know about you, but this statement happens to me all the time. And I definitely believe that poor people will tend to think small while rich people always think big.

To poor people, they will think that rich people are greedy because they always think big. Is it true that you are being greedy if you think big? I don’t know if I buy this, but to me, I’ll think of it as a waste if you’re not using the resources available (your thinking) to you at full.

Don’t you owe it to everyone around you to create a better life for them? Don’t you want your family to live good? So think big and create the abundance lifestyle for these people right now.

5. Rich people are committed to their dreams, poor people are just dreaming about their dreams. Yes, this is an obvious one.

If you’re not committed to be rich, you can never be rich. How many times have you heard people say that they want to be rich, but they never do anything about it?

This is the mentality of poor people. They will just think about how good it is going to be if they are rich, but they will never do anything about their dreams. They know that they cannot afford a luxury car if they have a low pay job. The thing is, they never do anything to change it.

On the contrary, rich and successful people are committed toward their dreams. They will do whatever it takes, in the boundary or moral and ethics of course, to achieve their dreams.

6. Rich people associate with rich and successful people. Poor people will associate with poor people. Do you have any rich friends? Or all of your friends are poor?
I’m not suggesting that you need to stop making friends with poor people, what I’m suggesting it, try to get to know more about rich people.

The more you mix with them, the more you will think like them. And if you think like them, you will start to create amazing results just like them.

If most of your friends are poor and their working salary all are below, $2,000, you will be having the same range of salary most of the time. However, if you associate with rich people who are making $2,000 in just a day, you will start to see the possibility of what you can accomplish in your life.

And this will change your thinking of what you can achieve in your life. $2,000 will become a small amount for you once you changed your mindset about money.

7. Rich people good learners while poor people think that they have learned everything in the world. One of the fastest ways to be financially abundance is to learn directly from people who have already achieved this status.

And if you’re not willing to learn, you will never be able to be successful. If you want to get the best pay, you must be the best. And the only way you can be the best is to learn from the best and learn to be the best.

You now know what are the 7 main differences between rich and poor people. Do what rich people do and try to avoid the adopting the mindset and habits of the poor.

This will guarantee you a financial abundance lifestyle.

The key to life is: Don't ever let emotion cloud your judgement.

2010-11-22T12:43:00.002-05:00

At least this is what Robert Greene says in his preface in the "48 laws of power."

My experience has been that emotions do cloud judgement but the truly balanced person uses thinking and emotions in an appropriate manner to solve their problems in life.

The thing ive learned from my recent studies is that the thing that matters more than anything else is how PREPARED you are to handle a situation.

A positive mental attitude does not come from as a result of bettering your self esteem.

It doesnt come as a result of liking yourself more.

It comes as a result of being thoroughly prepared to face the challenges that are in front of you at the time.

But you know what, if you know that something is coming ahead of time you have ample time to prepare for it.

This is how you adequately control your emotions.

You see it ahead of time and you locka nd load for it.

This takes deep study and planning and if you dont feel up to completeling a task because you arent appropriately prepared then dont do it.

8 Tremendously Important Ways That Gratitude Can Change Your Life

2010-11-02T06:02:00.002-04:00

What a crock of shit that picture is lol.

Anyway got this article from some white boy.

It's very instructive

“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, “thank you,” that would suffice.” - Meister Eckhart

It’s amazing how one simple, easy, positive action can change so much in a person’s life.
One of the things that has had the biggest effect on my life is the realization of the power of gratitude. Simply giving thanks.

It has affected everything. It has made me a more positive person. A more productive person. A better achiever. A better husband and father and son and brother (at least, I like to think so). A happier person.

I’m not perfect, but gratitude has made me better.

Can it change your life as well? I can guarantee it. You might not get the exact same benefits as I have, but there’s no doubt in my mind that the simple act of gratitude on a regular basis will change anyone’s life, positively and immediately.

How many other changes can claim to be that quick, that easy, and that profound?
Let’s take a look at some of the ways you can incorporate gratitude into your life, and how it will change your life.

These are just some examples, based on my experience and the experiences of others I’ve talked with, and not all will apply to your life. But pick and choose the ones you think will work for you.

1. Have a morning gratitude session. Take one minute in the morning (make it a daily ritual) to think of the people who have done something nice for you, to think of all the things in your life you’re grateful for. You won’t get to everything in one minute, but it’s enough. And it will instantly make your day better, and help you start your day off right. Can you think of a better use of one minute?

2. When you’re having a hard day … make a gratitude list. We all have those bad days sometimes. We are stressed out from work. We get yelled at by someone. We lose a loved one. We hurt a loved one. We lose a contract or do poorly on a project. One of the things that can make a bad day much better is making a list of all the things you’re thankful for. There are always things to be thankful for — loved ones, health, having a job, having a roof over your head and clothes on your back, life itself.

3. Instead of getting mad at someone, show gratitude. That’s a major switching of attitudes — actually a complete flip. And so this isn’t always easy to do. But I can promise you that it’s a great thing to do. If you get mad at your co-worker, for example, because of something he or she did … bite your tongue and don’t react in anger. Instead, take some deep breaths, calm down, and try to think of reasons you’re grateful for that person. Has that person done anything nice for you? Has that person ever done a good job? Find something, anything, even if it’s difficult. Focus on those things that make you grateful. It will slowly change your mood. And if you get in a good enough mood, show your gratitude to that person. It will improve your mood, your relationship, and help make things better. After showing gratitude, you can ask for a favor — can he please refrain from shredding your important documents in the future? And in the context of your gratitude, such a favor isn’t such a hard thing for the co-worker to grant.

4. Instead of criticising your significant other, show gratitude. This is basically the same as the above tactic, but I wanted to point out how gratitude can transform a marriage or relationship. If you constantly criticize your spouse, your marriage will slowly deteriorate — I promise you. It’s important to be able to talk out problems, but no one likes to be criticized all the time. Instead, when you find yourself feeling the urge to criticize, stop and take a deep breath. Calm down, and think about all the reasons you’re grateful for your spouse. Then share that gratitude, as soon as possible. Your relationship will become stronger. Your spouse will learn from your example — especially if you do this all the time. Your love will grow, and all will be right in the world.

5. Instead of complaining about your kids, be grateful for them. Many parents (myself included) get frustrated with their children. They are too slow to do things, they have a bad attitude, they can’t clean up after themselves, and they pick their nose too much. Unfortunately, sometimes parents will communicate that frustration to their children too often, and the kids will begin to feel bad about themselves. Many parents have done this, and while it’s not perfect, it’s a part of parenthood. But there’s a better way: follow the method above of calming down when you’re frustrated, and thinking of reasons you’re grateful to your child. Share these reasons with your child. And then take the opportunity to teach them, instead of criticizing them.

6. When you face a major challenge, be grateful for it. Many people will see something difficult as a bad thing. If something goes wrong, it’s a reason to complain, it’s a time of self-pity. That won’t get you anywhere. Instead, learn to be grateful for the challenge — it’s an opportunity to grow, to learn, to get better at something. This will transform you from a complainer into a positive person who only continues to improve. People will like you better and you’ll improve your career. Not too shabby.

7. When you suffer a tragedy, be grateful for the life you still have. I’ve recently lost an aunt, and my children recently lost a grandmother. These tragedies can be crippling if you let them overcome you. And while I’m not saying you shouldn’t grieve — of course you should — you can also take away something even greater from these tragedies: gratitude for the life you still have. Appreciation for the fleeting beauty of life itself. Love for the people who are still in your life. Take this opportunity to show appreciation to these people, and to enjoy life while you can.

8. Instead of looking at what you don’t have, look at what you do have. Have you ever looked around you and bemoaned how little you have? How the place you live isn’t your dream house, or the car you drive isn’t as nice as you’d like, or your peers have cooler gadgets or better jobs? If so, that’s an opportunity to be grateful for what you already have. It’s easy to forget that there are billions of people worse off than you — who don’t have much in the way of shelter or clothes, who don’t own a car and never will, who don’t own a gadget or even know what one is, who don’t have a job at all or only have very menial, miserable jobs in sweatshop conditions. Compare your life to these people’s lives, and be grateful for the life you have. And realize that it’s already more than enough, that happiness is not a destination — it’s already here.

“Everyday, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can.” – Dalai Lama

Happy 3 year blog anniversary to me me ME!

2010-11-01T15:00:00.003-04:00

Thats right kiddies.

This is the longest journal of personal thought ive ever made in life.

And its also one of the longest commitments ive ever made as well.

There has been so many ups and downs in my life due to this blog they are too innumerable to mention.

Most have been positive but unfortunately ive made and loss some great friends.

I just want to start off by personally thanking all of the people who ever posted anything on this site.

Even if it was negative it still made a deep and lasting impression on me.

I would also like to give a special shot out to a special woman who showed me what true love was.

Miss Freedom Taylor!

See back in 08 i started this site while i was homeless actually living in a shelter.

I was feeling down so i decided to put my thoughts on a blog so that i could share them with the world and possibly make some friends in the process.

I did but a very special friend (that i almost married) was Freedom.

Unfortunately it didnt work out because i didnt have the confidence to pursue the relationship further but i unduly broke her heart andd im sorry for that.

Even though that didnt work out i still made some other great friends and some very bitter enemies.

Regardless of what happened all of these experiences made me a better man and i do believe that one of the reasons i will be very successful in the future is because of the ideas and relatinships developed from this blog.

So i thank everybody and i hope all is well but most importantly i thank myself its because its my blog and i did it all my damn self lol.

Heres to another year of raw uncut tubman.

How to Stop Being Selfish

2010-09-24T21:34:00.001-04:00

By crownofsunbeams, eHow Member

I want to do this! What's This?

User-Submitted Article

"Me, myself and I." "You are number 1." "Buy yourself this item. You know you deserve it." So many times during the day, we get bombarded from all angles with the idea it is all right to put ourselves first and forget about others. After all, if no one looks after us, who else will? While there is nothing wrong with taking care of ourselves, when we become so absorbed with our needs we don't give a thought to anyone else, when we care so much about making our dreams come true we find others a nuisance, the time has come to confront our inner being and to admit we need to make a change. A life lived only for ourselves, a life where our only priority is to please ourselves, a life spent being indifferent to the other billions of souls we share the earth with, is truly an empty life.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

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Take an inventory of yourself. Give yourself a little test: throughout your regular day, how many times are your thoughts focused on yourself, your problems, your needs, your desires, your dreams? Do thoughts of others enter your mind, thoughts of how your neighbors, friends or family members are doing, or do you only think of them when you need a favor? When you have a conversation, do you listen to others, or do you wish the person would hurry up and finish his or her sentence so you can keep the focus on yourself? Be honest. The purpose is not to feel miserable about yourself and to think you are a terrible person, but to admit there is room for improvement. It is never too late to start changing, it is never impossible to change and yes, an old dog can be taught a few new tricks.

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Give yourself room to think of others. Don't shut the doors of your heart. You may not believe it, but your heart is so large it is filled to the brim with generosity. It is up to you to retrieve it. Don't shut the door to other souls. Make room for them.

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Be a giver on purpose. Look for ways to be good to people. Many will not ask you for anything, but if you force yourself to look beyond the surface, you will find many ways to help someone in need. Be determined you are going to be a blessing to at least 5 people per week. You need to be on the offensive, not passively wait for people to come and ask you to be generous. Can you afford to pay for someone's dinner? If that is not possible, how about paying for someone's cup of coffee the next time you are in your favorite coffee shop? If money is tight right now, how about sparing a loving word to the sad-looking person sitting next to you on the bus? There are many opportunities to be generous in a day. Don't overlook them.

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Help someone else's dreams come true. You may be tempted to think your own dreams won't come to pass if you are busy making another person's a possibility, but remember, God knows the desires of your heart. If He sees you doing all you can to be a blessing, He will cause the right people to come into your life and help you fulfill your own dreams.

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Give yourself to the world. Give your talents, your time, your energy, your words of encouragement. Don't be the type of person who gives for the wrong reasons or who charges money or expects something in return for every little favor. Don't keep track of what you gave, who you gave it to, the sacrifices you made. Keep on giving, all the while knowing a life lived for others is never wasted. It is a life of purpose.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ONE OF THE GREATEST LEADER WE EVER HAD: BUT NOBODY REMEMBERS HIM!!!

2010-08-20T21:32:00.002-04:00

THE HONORABLE MARCUS MOSIAH GARVEY 1887 -1940

Without this man there would be no Elijah Muhammad (who was in the United Negro Approvement Association ( Garvey's Organization) branch in Detroit) no Minister Louis Farrakhan (who first became conscious hanging out with UNIA members in Boston) no Nation of Islam and definitely no Malcolm X (both of his parents were in the local UNIA in Omaha, Nebraska.

And Marcus Garvey even stayed the night over Malcolm’s parent’s house when he came to visit the branch there.).

There would be no Kwame Nkrumah, who led the first Afrikan nation, Ghana, to liberate themselves from European colonialism, thus giving confidence to other Afrikan leaders to liberate themselves like Nnamdi Azikiwe of Nigeria, Nyerere of Tanzania, Nasser of Egypt, Ahmed Sekou Toure of Guinea and so on.

There would have been no Rastafarian movement (and you wouldn’t be walking around with locks on your head because this group popularized the style). And there definitely wouldn’t be a Bob Marley (who was a proud Rastafarian).

And guess what, there would be no Harlem Renaissance either because his news paper The Negro World (which had black writers in it from Canada, USA, the Caribbean, south America, Europe and Afrika) set up poetry contests in Harlem where local artists and poets could compete with each other.

Zora Neale Hurston and other poets got their chance to display their work in the Negro World long before the Renaissance of the thirties. He established businesses all over the US through his organization employing thousands of blacks all over the world.

He created the Universal African Legion, a paramilitary group where black men were armed and was charged with the responsibility of protecting their communities. This man and his ideas singlehandedly propelled hundreds of movements into existence.

The Universal Hip Hop Parade that many went to in New York yesterday is dedicated the memory of Marcus Garvey.

The Black Power movement of the sixties was a restimulation of Garvey’s ideas of Black Nationalism.

The list goes on and on, but yet I didn’t hear about him until I became conscious. Many people are not taught about him in grade school or college.

That is a real shame. I just did this little post to pay tribute to man I hold in high esteem, but to also give you a taste of significance of this man that many of us don’t know about.

I hope you do some research on him. I think you will be very enlightened by his life and ideas.

Mr Garvey I thank you for showing us how great we've always been and how great we will be again. I thank you for sacrificing personal fullfilment and happiness to struggle to the death for our liberation and freedom world wide.

I thank you for creating a blueprint for empowerment that the next leaders of the race can follow to liberate ourselves of the domination of our enemies.

Even though you arent given the credit that you are due I've found you in the world wind. The enemy tried to suppress your memory but i found you, when all hope was gone waiting for me with open arms.

From this day forward I make the declaration to be a "race man" as you put it, and use my gifts, talents and whatever else God gave me to put to the total liberation of all Afrikan people worldwide as the goal I will be constantly striving for.

If I can make a fraction of the contribution you made for us, my life would have meaning.

I will dedicate everyday of my life from now on to achieving the mission that you and other before you and since have tried to achieve.

This is my promise, this is my destiny.

ONE GOD, ONE AIM ONE DESTINY!

May your memory live on for a thousand genrations

Remember this story for the rest of your life

2010-03-06T09:51:00.000-05:00

Armageddon has come and your one of the lucky ones left alive.

Youre huddled in a bombed out basement with your wife and two little children with one can of beans.

Who eats the beans?

Youve probably been taught to do the noble thing, to do what a nice guy would do: Go hungry yourself and give the last can of beans to your starving wife and kids.

Well theres a whole lot of ugly just beyond that barricaded door hoping thats your answer because now you-the would be protector of your little tribe-will weaken.

And once you are too weak to resist-the wolves will break in-of the two legged variety and the four legged variety-they will kill you, they will rape your wife and eat your children!

All because you wernt strong enough-ruthless enough-to do what you had to do in the first place:

FEED YOURSELF FIRST, MAKE YOURSELF STRONGER!

Only then will you be any good to anybody else.

Tips for Dating a Woman Who Has Been Sexually Abused

2010-02-12T19:47:00.000-05:00

One in every three women has been sexually abused in some form at some time in her life. If you balk at these statistics, you're probably not familiar with the many different manifestations sexual abuse can take. Headlines are made by vicious, random rapes. These situations are traumatizing and life-altering, but the "quiet" sexual abuse is just as devastating and widespread. The bottom line is there's a good chance any one man may find himself in a relationship with a woman who, at some point in her life, experienced sexual abuse.

The reason more men aren't aware of this? Women generally don't want to talk about the abuse they've suffered. Many try to "act normal" - they put on a facade while trying to repress and forget the memory of the abuse. Suppressing the trauma only makes it worse, and these women often end up developing a serious disconnect from healthy relationships. This is not due only to their actions resulting from their private pain. Chances are a good number of these women are forced not only to suffer in silence, but also to bear the social stigma of being a "prude" or a woman with "issues." The misunderstanding and insensitivity these women face only serves to alienate them further.

It doesn't have to be this way. Women who have been abused can heal, move on, and form healthy, happy sexual relationships. A large factor in this is the man involved in the relationship. If you're involved with a woman who has suffered sexual abuse, you can go a long way toward giving her the support she needs to heal.

1. Educate yourself on the effects of sexual abuse. While you may never be able to understand the violation your partner experienced, do what you can to learn. Resources on sexual abuse abound online, in magazines, and in the library. Make an effort to understand what your partner is going through.

2. Don't push her to talk about the experience, but make sure she knows you're ready to listen if she does want to discuss it with you. Know that you'll likely have to prove your trustworthiness over and over in other facets of the relationship before she will feel comfortable trusting you with knowing the details of this, her most humiliating and traumatic experience.

3. Don't ever pressure her to have sex. Unwanted touching or sexual pressure will only reinforce her sense of distrust. Women who have been sexually abused often develop extreme low self-esteem - they believe they're good for nothing but "that." In addition, sexual pressure will add guilt on top of her fear. Don't let yourself believe she's not aware of your needs; she undoubtedly is, and she's likely wrestling with her own emotions and the knowledge that she's "depriving" you of sex. This is not to say you can't be intimate, but you must go slow and speak with her to define her boundaries. Pay attention to her outward signals, and be ready to back off.

4. Be sensitive, but not pitying. If your partner has come far enough to tell you about the sexual abuse she experienced, she may exhibit a heightened awareness of your attitude toward her - i.e., if you now consider her to be "damaged goods." Try to refrain from apologizing for what's happened to her. She may interpret this as your feeling sorry for her, and she may resent you for it. Possibly the best thing you can do for her after this revelation is to simply be present and listening. A common communication complaint amongst women, against men, is men tend to be "problem solvers" rather than listeners. While women only want someone to listen and commisserate, men want to take action and "fix it." You can't "fix" a woman who has experienced sexual abuse. You can only be there for her while she finds her own healing, hopefully in part through her relationship with you.

5. Above all, be patient. It may at times feel like you're bending over backward to cater to her emotions, but if you truly wish to pursue a meaningful, healthy relationship, you'll have to be patient. Frustration, anger and resentment on your part will only serve to add to her distress, drive a deeper wedge between you, and possibly destroy whatever progress you've already made in becoming close to her. You must be dedicated to being there for your partner and offering the support she needs, or your relationship may have the potential to cause even more damage. She's experienced betrayal and humiliation on the deepest level, and if she senses or experiences more hurt from you, it will only strengthen her reluctance and withdrawal.

Women who have been sexually abused can and do heal from the abuse. If your partner has been abused, you're in a unique position to help her on her road to healing. Make an effort to help and not hurt.

Love Quiz: Are You A Master of Emotional Disguise?

2010-02-04T18:35:00.003-05:00

The following quiz will help you understnd the ways in which you may be hiding the truth about your feelings from yourself and others-suppressing your emotions.

Add up your score as you give yourself points for how frequently these statements apply to you.

Often ...3 points
Sometimes ...2 points
Rarely or Never ...1 point

1)When I am angry about something, I find myself smiling as I desribe it or laughing and making light of it.

2) If I am upset with someone, I avoid rather than confront the person.

3) When a person hurts my feelings, I respond by being sarcastic.

4) I have a difficult time telling people how I feel about them.

5) If people ask me if I am upset with them, I dont let them know how angry or hurt I am, and tell them not to worry about it.

6) When I know i've made a mistake, I have a hard time saying I am sorry, and might instead point out how the other person made mistakes.

7) When I feel upset I: (score each seperately)
a) Smoke more
b) Drink more
C) Eat more
d) Take more drugs
e) Sleep more

8) When I am intimidated by someone I act cold and distant.

9) If I have been treated unfairly, I retreat into my emotions and cry rather than confront the person with my anger.

10) It takes a lot of effort for someone to get me to express strongly how I feel if my feeling isn't a positive one.

Now add up your points.

14-20 points: Congratulations! You are doing well at telling the truth about your feelings.

You may want to do some work on the question on which you scored at 2.

21-30 points: It's time to do some work on communicating you emotions.

Too often, you're hiding how you feel from yourself and others. Commit yourself to being more honest.

31-42 points: You are a master of emotional disguise.

most of your energy is spent hiding your feelings, protecting yourself and fooling others. Inside you are very frightened and need a lot of love and acceptance. Until you learn to share the truth of your feelings with yourself and with others, it will be difficult for you to have harmonious, fulfilling relationships-your partner will have a hard time knowing what you are feeling. You need to express those feelings buried deep inside. You can do it! I wish you the best!

The Power of Wheatgrass

2010-01-27T11:02:00.002-05:00

Would you like to have something that contains very high concentrations of vitamins, minerals and live enzymes, is easy to grow in your home, is renowned for its healing properties, will give you the same nourishment as 4 pounds of fresh, green vegetables (in only 2 ounces), is wonderfully energizing, and much more?If so, you need Wheatgrass - which Dr. Christopher called the "Ultimate Healer."

Most of us don't think of wheat, the staff of life and the staple of many Westerner's diets, as a healing herb. The dried grain in itself provides optimal nourishment as a basic food - it contains protein, vitamins, minerals and carbohydrates for energy. But what turns it into a powerful healer is germination: grow wheatgrass and you have an ultimate healer.

Dr. Ann Wigmore was the first to popularize wheatgrass for healing. She noted that wheatgrass has live minerals, live vitamins, and live trace elements at a pH very close to that of human blood.

Wheatgrass is 70% chlorophyll. The chemical structure of chlorophyll is similar to that of the hemoglobin of the blood. Chlorophyll purifies and builds the blood. It also arrests the growth of unfriendly bacteria, assisting the body in attaining optimal health.

Wheatgrass is high in vitamins A, C, and the B vitamins. It contains minerals and trace elements necessary to your body. It is rich in calcium, phosphorus and magnesium in just the right proportions for optimal calcium assimilation (you can't absorb calcium well unless these three elements are in correct proportion). It also contains sodium, potassium, sulfur, iron, cobalt and zinc. It is loaded with enzymes, which will create youth and health for you. It contains all the essential amino acids, which is great news for the pure vegetarian who is trying to follow Dr. Christopher's nutritional guidelines.

Wheatgrass helps detoxify your body by breaking up impacted matter in the colon. It helps fight infection throughout your system and builds your immune system. It contains lecithin, which will help break down fats in the lymphatic system and feeds the heart. In experiments with anemic animals, their blood count returned to normal after four to five days of receiving chlorophyll.

Wheatgrass is entirely nontoxic. It can be used internally or topically without fear of side-effects. Used in conjunction with the Christopher Cleansing Program it can do much as a tonic aid toward relieving pain and suffering of so-called incurable diseases.

You can purchase flats of wheatgrass at your local health-food store, or you can grow your own. Fill a nursery flat with a few inches of soil, making sure it is nice and even. Moisten the soil evenly. Then soak 2 cups of hard red winter wheat overnight. Place on soil in a single layer, leaving no empty spots. Cover with a half-inch of soil. Keep moist; in a few days you'll have beautiful wheatgrass four to six inches high, which is ready to harvest. Place by a window or outside on a mild day to green up.

Cut bundles of this wheatgrass, rinse it well, and juice it in a slow, manual wheatgrass juicer. If you use a blender or highspeed juicer, you can oxidize important lifegiving elements. Drink two ounces night and morning by swishing each mouthful to mix the saliva with the wheatgrass juice. You may experience a "gag reflex" because the wheatgrass juice is so concentrated, but persevere, and you'll begin to see a miraculous increase in energy and vitality from taking daily wheatgrass juice.

Be sure to replant in time so that you'll have a constant source of fresh wheatgrass.

Dr. Christopher recommended this schedule: when you get up in the morning, take a drink of 1 quart warm water, 2 tablespoons unsulphured molasses, and the juice of ½ lemon to clear any leftover digestive liquids from the stomach. In a half hour, take your two ounces of wheatgrass juice. This can be taken straight or diluted half and half with distilled water.

How to prevent the US Government from messing up Haiti (or any other Afrikan nation) more than they already have.

2010-01-20T15:48:00.003-05:00

When you look at any news channel you would think that Americans were the most wonderful, thoughtful human beings on earth for how they are comming to the aid of those poor dreaded haitians.

Aren't those white folks the most benevolent people you've ever seen?

I wonder has anyone asked how Haiti got to the point where the leaders there cant even take care of their own people?

One things for sure, those nice, kind and gentle Americans didnt have anything to do with Haiti's downfall.

Really?

Ladies and gentleman, "if you dont understand racism white supremacy, everything you think you understand will only confuse you."

Neely Fuller said that.

Let's go into the History of Haiti first.

To be honest i only know highlights but ill give you a good gist.

In 1800 the island of Haiti was a slave island in which the Afrikans were enslaved by the french colonialists.

The island produced large amounts of sugar cane for the french government.

The constant flow of sugar from haiti to france made france a very wealthy nation.

The Afrikans in Haiti were being treated so badly buy those funny speaking people that the average lifespan of a field slave in haiti was 6 years.

Did u get that?

This means that the french would work the men there so hard in the field that they would die after 6 years of back breaking labor.

Can you imagine somebody working you that hard?

Around this time Napolean was on his psychopathic rampage to take over the world.

He had virtually taken over all of western europe and he wanted to expand his empire into the united states so he sent more troops to Haiti so he could use Haiti as a pit stop on his way to the French territory in the unites states.

So he sent his nephew into Haiti to stabilize the country but they didnt count on the Haitian rebellion that those valiant Africans put up to free themselves from french rule.

The haitians stood up to the french and drained them of so much money and time that france was forced to sell their territory in the united states to re-coop their losses.

The louisianna territory stretched from louisianna to montanna and from colorado to minnesota.

It involved almost 20 states.

If Haiti hadnt rebelled at that point to fight off, not only the french army but the combined forces of the french, british and spanish army, then the united states might be a protectorate of the french government right now.

Indeed the United States is indebted to Haiti.

But the Haitian people had to pay reparations to the french government all through the 1800's and that drained them of sufficient wealth they could have used to build up their new nation.

In 1915, president Woodrow Wilson invaded Haiti and put the whole Haitian parliament out of office.

The united states wanted the hatian people to sell some of their land to us corporations so they could build their factories there and hire cheap labor.

The parliament refused to accept that so the us put the ruling parliament out of office by gun point and set up a fake election to get their puppets into office so that they could give the us corporations land to do what they wanted.

This went on until the 90's when president clinton supposedly set them free in 94.

In the 80's many people on the island were making a decent living selling and raising the black pigs that were there.

They us government heard about it and said that it was a swine flu break out amongst the pigs there so they slaughtered all the pigs in Haiti taking away the livelyhood of thousands of people.

To make a long story short The US and some of the Western European Governments have never gotten over the shame that came from them being defeated by the slave army in Haiti.

So to get back at the Hatians they have frustrated them in many ways since the official Independent state of Haiti was developed in 1804.

Now they are in there supposedly trying to save the people but they may frustrate haiti again after all the rubble is cleared.

Afrikans in america cant let them do that.

We have to demand that our government stop preventing Haiti from succeeding and start giving a substancial amount of aid to Haiti for all the dammage it has done to our people there.

We have to say enough is enough.

We cannot let this government go into afrikan nations all around the world harrasing them and intimidating them while we just stand back idily watching.

We have to do anything necessary to prevent this government from harrasing nations around the world and if that means resorting to violence and disruption then so be it.

Those are our people not only in Haiti, but in Somalia; in South Africa and everywhere else.

Enough is enough.

Martin Luther King JR: The man the myth, the lover, the revolutionary and who really had a hand in his assasination

2010-01-17T17:38:00.003-05:00

If your oppressor cant fool you then they will inevitably become violent with you.

This government was responsible for ending dr. martin luther king's life.

As a matter of fact when King saw news footage of president Kennedy being assasinated he told his wife Corretta, "that's exactly what's going to happen to me!"

This man's life and his ideological stances were riddled with blatent contradictions and intricate complexities.

I grew up idolizing him as a young child (who didnt right) and i actually dedicated my life to a noble cause because of his influence in my life.

I wanted to help my people on a large scale like he did.

When I got older I looked at his speeches and I looked at many of the major events that occured in his life and I gained a different consciousness and as a result I saw him differently.

For instance being a staunch pan africanist (or what i would like to think of myself as) I am fervently against his plea to whites to solve our problems economically for us.

I think he would have been a more beloved leader in the black community if he had dedicated his time and energy into training the black community to be interdependent on an economic and political basis with europeans in this nation and in the world.

Hindsight is 20/20 so I dont think he had the insight to see that route being the best and only route to take.

Before he died I think he saw the light, and as a result the government decided to kill him before he could express that belief.

Here is a man that was a voracious lover of women as we now know.

Did you know he didnt even write the famous "I Have A Dream" speech.

That speech was writen by some white liberal that was helping to finance the negro's in the civil rights movement.

He didnt write most of his speeches actually.

Now this doesnt take away from his erudition because he was definately smart, especially at the latter point in his life.

But whites made Martin what he was.

He is a direct by product of the white liberal conspiracy to control the destiny of blacks by co-oping their leaders (a strategy they've been using since they first conquered us).

Now lets talk about who really killed him.

The government was planning to kill him on that fatal day in Memphis at least a year and a half before they even killed him.

There is an enthrawling documentary on google videos that will leave you sitting there with your mouth hanging open the whole time.

This white boy actually went into the fbi files and found monumental eveidence that proves without a shadow of a doubt that the cia, the pentagon and strangely enough the mafia had a hand in killing Dr. King.

You can get the first of the 2 part interview here.

After listening to this you will never be the same.

Love Quiz: The Warning Signs of Relationship Problems

2010-01-06T15:05:00.004-05:00

Got this quiz from Barbara De Angelis's "Making Love Work" home coure for relationship assessments.

This quiz is designed to help you detect some of the warning signs that may indicate you have some problem in your relationship that need attention. If you're single, take the most recent or most serious relationship you have had. Answer as honestly as you can. Remember: The first step toward changing your love life is facing what isnt working.

Grade yourself on each question according to how frequently these statements apply to you.

Very Often ...5 points
Often ...3 points
Seldom ...1 points
Never ...0 points

Answer as honestly as you can. You may not like admitting some of this to yourself, but facing it is the first step toward changing it. And remember, you have a much better chance of staying in love by being aware of the warning signs that you do by ignoring them.

1) You are critical of your partner out loud or to yourself.

2) You feel a drive to do things without your partner, a craving for your own space.

3) You find yourself looking at or being attarcted to other member of the opposite sex.

4) You avoid having sex or intimacy with your partner, you dont seem to find the time or be in the right mood (headache, tired, etc.)

5) You find yourself unable to forgive certain things your partner has done in the course of the relationship, and still feel angry or upset when you think of these things.

6) You stay home a lot with your partner because neither of you makes plans for social activities out together.

7) You feel a nostalgia for the past, remembering the begining of your relationship as ahappier time, or remembering other relationships prior to this one as being more exciting.

8) You spend most of your time with friends or in activities that do not involve your partner.

9) You do not share your feelings or observations with your partner because you feel he or she wont understand.

10) You have some form of addiction that causes you to become numb to your feelings: drinking alcohol, using drugs or tranqualizers, overeating etc.

11) You and your partner dont take the initative to plan or spend romantic time together.

12) If you have children, you and your partner spend most alone talking about the children. When you are together as a family, you pay more attention to te children than you do to each other.

13) You have a best friend with whom you share important feelings that you dont share with your partner. You feel closer to this person in many ways than you do to your partner, and feel he or she understands you in ways your partner does not.

14) You tune out what your partner says when he or she is talking to you, only half listening to what he or she is saying.

15) You avoid being alone with your partner by working late at night, bringing work home, or overscheduling yourself so you never seem to have time for each other.

16) You are neglecting your appearance; you are overweight; you pay little attention to dressing in an attarctive way way for your partner, or you neglect your personal hygeine.

17) You criticize your partner to friends or family and complain about the relationship.

18) You compare your partner unfavorably with other people; the others appear more attractive, more witty, more sensitive etc.

19) You neglect to give complements and other expressions of appreciation to your partner.

20) You fantasize sexually about other people when you are in or out of bed.

Now total up your points

0-30 points: Your relationship is in good shape

31-50 points: Your relationship is in the begining stage of trouble

51-70 points: Pay attention: Your realtionship is in trouble

71-100 points: EMERGENCY! Your relationship is in crisis and needs immediate attention.

The History of Child Abuse Lloyd deMause The Journal of Psychohistory

2009-12-21T15:36:00.000-05:00

The History of Child Abuse Lloyd deMause The Journal of Psychohistory
The History of Child Abuse

Lloyd deMause
The Journal of Psychohistory V. 25, N. 3, Winter 1998

The following speech was given at the National Parenting Conference in Boulder, Colorado, on September 25, 1997.

It also appears in Sexual Addicitons & Compulsivity V 1 n1 1994

(posted with permission)

describes crimes of abuse

During the past three decades, I have spent much of my scholarly life examining primary sources such as diaries, autobiographies, doctor’s reports, ethnographic reports and other documents that document what it must have felt like to have been a child – yesterday and today, in the East and the West, in literate and preliterate cultures.

In several hundred studies published by myself and my associates in The Journal of Psychohistory, we have provided extensive evidence that the history of childhood has been a nightmare from which we have only recently begun to awaken. The further back in history one goes – and the further away from the West one gets – the more massive the neglect and cruelty one finds and the more likely children are to have been killed, rejected, beaten, terrorized and sexually abused by their caretakers.

Indeed, my conclusion from a lifetime of psychohistorical study of childhood and society is that the history of humanity is founded upon the abuse of children. Just as family therapists today find that child abuse often functions to hold families together as a way of solving their emotional problems, so, too, the routine assault of children has been society’s most effective way of maintaining its collective emotional homeostasis. Most historical families once practiced infanticide, erotic beating and incest. Most states sacrificed and mutilated their children to relieve the guilt of adults. Even today, we continue to arrange the daily killing, maiming, molestation and starvation of children through our social, military and economic activities. I would like to summarize here some of the evidence I have found as to why child abuse has been humanity’s most powerful and most successful ritual, why it has been the cause of war and social violence, and why the eradication of child abuse and neglect is the most important social task we face today.

THE CHILD AS POISON CONTAINER

The main psychological mechanism that operates in all child abuse involves using children as what I have termed poison containers – receptacles into which adults project disowned parts of their psyches, so they can control these feelings in another body without danger to themselves. In good parenting, the child uses the caretaker as a poison container, much as it earlier used the mother’s placenta as a poison container for cleansing its polluted blood. A good mother reacts with calming actions to the cries of a baby and helps it “detoxify” its dangerous emotions. But when an immature mother’s baby cries, she cannot stand the screaming, and strikes out at the child. As one battering mother put it, “I have never felt loved all my life. When the baby was born, I thought he would love me. When he cried, it meant he didn’t love me. So I hit him.” Rather than the child being able to use the parent to detoxify its fears and anger, the parent instead injects his or her bad feelings into the child and uses it to cleanse his or herself of depression and anger.

Consider a typical infanticidal, incestuous culture, the Bimin-Kuskusmin of New Guinea. As is so often true in pre-literate cultures, the mothers have long post-partum taboos against sex with their husbands, sleep naked against their children until they are about four years old, have orgasms while nursing them and regularly masturbate them. One three-year-old boy describes how whenever his mother was sad or angry she masturbated him so roughly that it hurt him, and he struggled to get away, complaining of a pain in his penis. “It hurts inside,” he told the ethnologist. “It goes Ôkoong, koong, koong’ inside. I think it bleeds in there I don’t like to touch it anymore. It hurts when I pee…” Sometimes, after his mother hurt him while masturbating him, he wounds himself in the thigh and abdomen with a sharp stick and draws blood, looking at his penis and saying, “Now it hurts here, outside, not in penis. Look, blood. Feels good…” Although he is only three years old, he understands quite well that he is being used as a poison container by his mother to relieve her depression. He says, “Mother twist penis, tight…Hurt inside…Mother angry, hurt Buuktiin’s penis. Mother sad, hurt Buuktiin’s penis…Mother not like Buuktiin’s penis, want to cut off…”

Maternal incest and pederasty by men are quite common in pre-literate groups and were common in earlier historical times. Boys in many New Guinea groups today, for instance, are so traumatized by the early erotic experiences, neglect and assaults on their bodies that they need to prove their masculinity when they grow up and become fierce warriors and cannibals, with a third of them dying in raids and wars. In fact, I have found that rather than the incest taboo being universal – as anthropologists claim – it is incest itself that has been universal for most children in most cultures in most times. A childhood more or less free from adult sexual use is in fact a very late historical achievement, limited to a few fortunate children in a few modern nations. To give you some idea of the extensive evidence I have gathered for such an unlikely conclusion, I would like to begin by summarizing the evidence which exists for the sexual abuse of children around the world today.

THE SEXUAL ABUSE OF CHILDREN TODAY

In America, the most accurate scientific studies, based on lengthy interviews, report that 30 percent of men and 40 percent of women remember having been sexually molested during childhood- – defining “molestation” as acctual genital contact, not just exposure. About half of these are directly incestuous, with the family members, the other half usually being with others, but with the complicity of caretakers in at least 80 percent of the cases. These experiences of seduction are not just pieced together from fragmentary memories, but are remembered in detail, are usually for an extended period of time and have been confirmed by follow-up reliability studies in 83 percent of the cases, so they are unlikely to have been fantasies. The seductions occurred at much earlier ages than had been previously assumed, with 81 percent occurring before puberty and an astonishing 42 percent under age 7.

As high as these molestation rates seem, however, they represent only a portion of the true rates, not only because those interviewed do not include populations that have been shown to have extremely high rates- – such as criminals, prostitutes, juveniles in shelters, psychotics, etc. – but also because only conscious memories were counted, and the earliest seductions of children are almost never remembered except during psychotherapy. Adjusting statistically for what is known about these additional factors, I have concluded that the real sexual abuse rate for America is 60 percent for girls and 45 percent for boys, about half of these directly incestuous.

Other Western nations have made fewer careful studies. A recent Canadian study by Gallup of 2,000 adults has produced incidence rates almost exactly the same as those found in the United States. Latin American family sexual activity – particularly widespread pederasty as part of macho sexuality – is considered even more widespread. In England, a recent BBC “ChildWatch” program asked its female listeners – a large though admittedly biased sample – if they remembered sexual molestation, and, of the 2,530 replies analyzed, 83 percent remembered someone touching their genitals, 62 percent recalling actual intercourse. In Germany, the Institut fur Kindheit has recently concluded a survey asking West Berlin schoolchildren about their sexual experiences, and 80 percent reported having been molested.

Outside the West, the sexual molestation of children is a routine practice in most families. Childhood in India begins, according to observers, with the child being regularly masturbated by the mother, the girl “to make her sleep well,” the boy “to make him manly.” The child sleeps in the family bed, witnesses and most likely takes part in sexual intercourse between the parents. The child is often “borrowed” to sleep with other members of the extended household, leading to the Indian proverb that “For a girl to be a virgin at ten years old, she must have neither brothers nor cousin nor father.” Childhood is so eroticized that, as one Western observer put it, “The little Hindu girls are deflowered by the little boys with whom they play, and repeat together the erotic lessons which their parents have unwittingly taught them on account of the general promiscuity of family life throughout India. In all the little girls of less than ten years of age the complete hymen is wanting…Incest is often the rule rather than the exception.”

Child marriage was, of course, a long-standing Indian practice. When laws were passed in 1929 trying to outlaw it, the government was overwhelmed by men insisting that early marriage was an absolute necessity, since little girls were naturally very sexual and must be married early if they are to be restrained from seducing adults. “Cupid overtakes the hearts of girls…at an early age,” they said. “A girl’s desire for sexual intercourse is eight times greater than that of males.” Indian mothers also often supported early marriage, frankly admitting it was necessary in order to protect their little girls against rape in the family, saying that “they were afraid to leave their daughters at home, even for one afternoon, without a mother’s eye and accessible to the men of the family.”

The Indian subcontinent, in fact, still has many groups, such as the Baiga, where actual incestuous marriage is practiced, between fathers and daughters, between mothers and sons, between siblings and even between grandparents and their grandchildren – thus disproving the oft-repeated anthropological truism that “no known tribe has ever permitted incest” because if it were allowed society would surely cease functioning. In many of these villages, the children move at the age of 5 or 6 from the incestuous activities of the family bed to spend the rest of their childhood in sex dormitories, where they are initiated by older youth and men into intercourse with a succession of other children, none for longer than three days at a time, under threat of gang rape.

Childhood in China has historically had the same institutionalized rape rituals as in India, including the pederasty of boys, child concubinage, the castration of boys to be used sexually as eunuchs, marriage of young girls to a number of brothers, widespread boy and girl prostitution and the regular sexual use of child servants and slaves. So prevalent was the rape of little girls that Western doctors found that, as in India, few girls entering puberty had intact hymens. Even the universal practice of foot binding was for sexual purposes, with a girl undergoing extremely painful crushing of the bones of her feet for years in order that men could make love to her big toe as a fetish, a penis-substitute.

Childhood in contemporary Japan, although somewhat more Western than that of other Eastern nations, still includes masturbation by mothers “to put them to sleep.” Parents often have intercourse with their children in bed with them, and “co-sleeping,” with parents physically embracing the child, often continues until the child is ten or fifteen. One recent Japanese study found daughters sleeping with their fathers over 20 percent of the time after age 16. Recent sex surveys report memories of sexual abuse even higher than comparable American studies, and “hot lines” of sexual abuse report mother-son incest in almost a third of the calls, the mother saying to her teenage son, “It’s not good to do it alone. Your IQ becomes lower. I will help you, ” or “You cannot study if you cannot have sex. You may use my body,” or “I don’t want you to get into trouble with a girl. Have sex with me instead.” Historically, Japan has been one of the most endogamous societies in the world, with incestuous marriages in court circles being approved even in historical times and preferred sibling, cousin, uncle-niece and aunt-nephew marriages having been so extensive that genetics experts have discovered that the incestuous inbreeding has affected the size and health of the Japanese. Even today, there are rural areas in Japan where fathers marry their daughters when the mother has died or is incapacitated, “in accordance with feudal family traditions.”

The sexual use of children in the Near East is as widespread as in the Far East. Historically, all the institutionalized forms of pedophilia which were customary in the Far East are documented extensively for the Near East, including child marriage, child concubinage, temple prostitution of both boys and girls, parent-child marriage (among the Zoroastrians), sibling marriage (quite common among Egyptians), sex slavery, ritualized pederasty and child prostitution. Masturbation in infancy is said to be necessary “to increase the size” of the penis, and older siblings are reported to play with the genitals of babies for hours at a time. Mutual masturbation, fellatio and anal intercourse are also said to be common among children, particularly with the older boys using younger children as sex objects. The nude public baths (hammam) are particularly eroticized in many areas, being especially notorious as a place of homosexual acts, both male and female.

Girls are used incestuously even more often than boys, since females are valued so little. One report found 80 percent of Near Eastern women surveyed recalled having been forced into fellatio between the ages of 3 and 6 by older brothers, cousins, uncles and teachers. The girls rarely complain, since “if there is any punishment to be meted out, it will always end up by being inflicted on her.” Arab women know that their spouses are pedophiles and prefer having sex with children to having sex with them. Their retribution comes as follows. When the girl is about 6 years old, the women of the house grab her, pull her thighs apart and cut off her clitoris and often also her labia with a razor, thus usually ending her ability to feel sexual pleasure forever. One Egyptian woman relates her memory of how it happened to her. After being used sexually by the men in her family during her early childhood, she says:

I was six years old that night when I lay in my bed, warm and peaceful…I felt something move under the blankets, something like a huge hand…another hand was clapped over my mouth to prevent me from screaming.

They carried me to the bathroom…I remember…a rasping metallic sound which reminded me of the butcher when he used to sharpen his knife…My blood was frozen in my veins…my thighs had been pulled wide apart…I felt that the rasping knife or blade was heading straight down towards my throat. Then suddenly the sharp metallic edge seemed to drop between my thighs and there cut off a piece of flesh from my body.

I screamed with pain despite the tight hand held over my mouth, for the pain was not just a pain, it was like a searing flame that went through my whole body. After a few moments, I saw a red pool of blood around my hips.

I did not know what they had cut off from my body, and did not try to find out. I just wept, and called out to my mother for help. But the worst shock of all was when I looked around and found her standing by my side. Yes, it was her, I could not be mistaken, in flesh and blood, right in the midst of these strangers, talking to them and smiling at them.

A recent survey of Egyptian girls and women showed 97 percent of uneducated families and 66 percent of educated families still practiced clitoridectomy. Nor is the practice decreasing – UN reports estimate that more than 74 million females have been mutilated, with “more female children mutilated today than throughout history.”

Clitoridectomy, like all sexual mutilations, is, I believe, an act of incest. If it is incest when a father rapes a daughter, it is also incest when parents assault their children by cutting off, sewing up, burning, flaying or gashing their genitals. In all these cases, the child is being used for the sadistic sexual pleasure of the parent. In fact, circumcision ceremonies are often followed by drinking parties that end in intercourse, so sexually arousing is the circumcision- – in some areas, the traveling circumcizer is actually accompanied by some prostitutes, who know how sexually excited villages become after the ceremony. Therefore, the practice of sexually mutilating children’s genitals- – one of the most widespread rituals in the world – by itself makes incest a near-universal trait.

THE EVOLUTION OF CHILDHOOD

Historically, the routine use of children as poison containers to prevent adults from feeling overwhelmed by their anxieties has also been universal. Examples from the history of childhood regularly reveal children are expected to “absorb” the bad feelings of their caretakers. As one peasant community in rural Greece puts it, you must have children around to put your bad feelings into, especially when the “Bad Hour” comes around. An informant describes the process as follows:

One of the ways for the Bad Hour to occur is when you get angry. When you’re angry a demon gets inside of you. Only if a pure individual passes by, like a child for instance, will the “bad” leave you, for it will fall on the unpolluted.

Newborn infants, in particular, were perfect poison containers because they were so “unpolluted.” The newborn then became so full of the parent’s projections that even if he or she is allowed to live (up to half the children in early societies were murdered at birth), the infant had to be tied up – tightly swaddled in bandages for up to a year or more- – to prevent it from “tearing its ears off, scratching its eyes out, breaking its legs, or touching its genitals,” i.e., to prevent it from acting out the violent and sexual projections of the parents.

Children were particularly useful as poison containers when adults felt anxious about recent or impending success. Success stirs up superego retaliation, and the sacrifice of children to appease the gods – that is, the punitive parents – was an extremely widespread guilt-reducing device. Most early states practiced child sacrifice. Typical was Carthage, where a large cemetery has been discovered called The Tophet filled with over 20,000 urns deposited there between 400 and 200 B.C. The urns contained bones of children sacrificed by their parents, who often would make a vow to kill their next child if the gods would grant them a favor – for instance, if their shipment of goods were to arrive safely in a foreign port. Some urns contain the bones of stillborn babies along with the bones of two-year-olds, indicating that if the promised child was not born alive, an older child had also to be killed to satisfy the promise. The sacrifice was accompanied by a music, wild dancing and riotous orgy, and was probably accompanied by the ritual rape of virgin girls, as it was with the Incans. Plutarch told how the priests would “cut their throats as if they were so many lambs or young birds; meanwhile the mother stood by without a tear or moan [while] the whole area before the statue was filled with a loud noise of flutes and drums…” Sacrifice, rape and genital mutilation of young girls continues to take place today in the Andean mountains, particularly to ward off the guilt coming after successful cocaine deliveries. These ceremonies, from antiquity to today, resemble closely the satanic rituals made familiar recently in the newspapers, using the infliction of rape, sexual mutilation and other horrors in order to visit upon child victims elements of the traumas of the satanists’ own childhood.

That child sacrifice was carried out mainly by the rich in each of these early societies confirms my theory that it is a guilt-reducing technique. Whenever new ventures were begun, children would be sacrificed. Whenever a new building or bridge was built, a child would be buried within it as a “foundation sacrifice.” Children still play at capturing a child and making it part of the bridge in “London Bridge’s Falling Down.” Children’s bodies were particularly useful in curing disease. Whatever one’s physical ills, a child could be used to “absorb” the poison that was responsible. When, for instance, one wanted to be cured of leprosy, one was supposed to kill a child and wash one’s body in its blood. When one wanted to find out if a house whose previous occupants had died of plague was still infected or not, one rented some children to live in it for several weeks to see if they died – rather like the use of canaries in mines to detect poisonous gas. When one was impotent, depressed or had venereal disease, doctors prescribed having intercourse with a child. As late as the end of the nineteenth century, men who were brought into Old Bailey for having raped young girls were let go because “they believed that they were curing themselves of venereal disease.” Raping virgins was particularly effective for impotence and depression; as one medical book put it, “Breaking a maiden’s seal is one of the best antidotes for one’s ills. Cudgeling her unceasingly, until she swoons away, is a might remedy for man’s depression. It cures all impotence.” And, of course, whenever a parent had a disease, they always had their children handy to absorb the poison. Thus British doctors in the nineteenth century regularly found when visiting men who had venereal disease that their children also had the same disease – on their mouths, anuses or genitals.

No matter what anxieties one had, one had children always at hand to use to relieve them. The evolution of childhood from incest to love and from abuse to empathy has been a slow, uneven path, but one whose progressive direction is, I think, unmistakable. This evolution of parent-child relations is, I contend, an independent source of historical change, lying in the ability of successive generations of parents to live through their own childhood traumas a second time and work through their anxieties in a slightly better manner this second time around. It is in this sense that I say that history is like psychotherapy, which also heals through revisiting one’s childhood traumas and reworking earlier anxieties. If the parent – the mother, for most of history – is given even the most minimal support by society, the evolution of childhood progresses, new variations in historical personality are formed, and history begins to move in new, innovative directions.

The crucial relationship in this evolution is the mother-daughter relationship. If little girls are treated particularly badly, they grow up to be mothers who cannot rework their traumas, and history is frozen. For instance, although China was ahead of the West in most ways during the pre-Christian era, it became “frozen” and fell far behind the West in evolutionary social and technological change after it adopted the practice of footbinding girls. Similarly, the cliterodectomy of girls in Moslem societies has inhibited their social development for centuries, since it likewise puts a brake on the ability of the next generation of mothers to make progress in caring for their children. Clearly, different groups have moved different distances up the ladder of psychological evolution, since some contemporary groups still practice brain-eating as our Paleolithic ancestors did, and different subgroups of our more advanced nations still terrorize and abuse their children in ways identical to those that were commonplace centuries ago, producing the “historical fossils” (early “psychoclasses”) we now call borderline personalities and other severe character disorders. Your neighbor is as likely to be a result of medieval parenting as of modern parenting, so modern societies contain a full range of childrearing modes and psychoclasses.

The “generational pressure” for psychological change is not only an independent historical force – originating in inborn adult-child striving for relationship – it occurs independent of social and technological change, and can be found even in periods of economic stagnation. My “psychogenic theory of history” posits that a society’s childrearing practices are not just one item in a list of cultural traits, but – because all other traits must be passeed down from generation to generation through the narrow funnel of childhood – instead makes childrearing the very basis for the transmission and development of all other cultural traits, placing definite limits on what can be achieved in the material spheres of history. The main source of childhood evolution is, I believe, the process I call psychogenesis, by which parents – mainly the mother for most of history – revisit a second time around the stages of childhood and undo to some extent the traumas they themselves endured. It is in this sense that history is like a psychotherapy of the generations, undoing trauma and giving historical personality a chance at a new start with every baby born. Only humans have brain networks that allow this miracle to take place. All cultural changes in the past 100,000 years of Homo sapiens sapiens are epigenetic, not genetic. Regardless of changes in the environment, it is only when changes in childhood occur that epigenetic changes in the brain can occur and societies can begin to progress and move in unpredictable new directions that are more adaptive. That more individuated and loving individuals are ultimately more adaptive is understandable – because they are less under the pressures of infantile traumas and are therefore more rational in reaching their goals. But that this childhood evolution – and therefore all social evolution – is terribly uneven is also understandable, given the varying conditions under which parents all over the world have to conduct their childrearing tasks.

THE SIX CHILDREARING MODES

The basic patterns of evolution of childhood have begun to be traced by myself and other psychohistorians. I would like to summarize the six childrearing modes that I have suggested are common to all groups that have traversed the full path of childhood and cultural evolution so far. These modes are, in fact, quite independent of technological development. But the overall evolutionary direction of parent-child relations is, I think, evident in the historical record, regardless of what labels one chooses to put on its stages.

The earliest childrearing mode I have called infanticidal to highlight the constant presence of infanticidal wishes in the parent. Real infanticide is, of course, ubiquitous in most preliterate cultures, ranging about a third or more of all children born, and evidence remains of widespread infanticide among all historical records. By historical times, census figures from antiquity show boy/girl ratios as high as 400 boys to 100 girls – a believable figure since, as Poseidippos said, “even a rich man always exposes a daughter.” I have estimated that perhaps half of all children born in antiquity were killed by their caretakers, declining to about a third in medieval times and dropping to under one percent only by the eighteenth century. Since these skewed sex ratios do not vary by economic class – the rich do away with their children at about the same rates as the poor – the evidence suggests that the parents were coping with the emotional anxieties of childrearing more than economic conditions.

That incest is also traditional in the infanticidal mode is harder to prove conclusively, since what really happened in the family bed does not often leave historical traces. Yet all the records we have suggest that this was so. Man began, after all, as an incestuous primate – along with other primates, who remain incestuous today. In most simple societies today in such areas as New Guinea, boys and girls are used sexually by both their mothers and by the men, who gang rape girls and often are also pederasts who use the boys sexually, have boy-wives, or force all the boys to fellate them daily from age seven to fourteen “in order to ingest semen to counteract maternal pollution.”

By the time historical records begin, the widespread sexual use of children is well documented. The Greek and Roman child lived his or her earliest years in an atmosphere of sexual abuse. Girls were commonly raped, as reflected in the many comedies that have scenes that were considered funny of little girls being raped. Both Greek and Roman doctors report that female children rarely have hymens – just like the Indian and Chinese girls I described above. In order to find out if your young wife was really a virgin (girls usually married before puberty to older men), one had to use mystical tests for virginity, since intact hymens were so rare.

Boys, too, were regularly handed over by their parents to neighboring men to be raped. Plutarch has a long essay on what was the best kind of person a father should give his son to for buggering. The common notion that this occurred only at “adolescence” is quite mistaken. It began around age seven, continued for several years and ended by puberty, when the boy’s facial and pubic hairs began to appear. Child brothels, rent-a-boy services and sex slavery flourished in every city in antiquity. Children were so subject to sexual use by the men around them that schools were by law prohibited from staying open past sundown, so their pedagogues – slaves who were assigned to protect them against random sexual attack – could try to see that their teachers didn’t assault them. Petronius especially loved depicting adults feeling the “immature little tool” of boys, and Tiberius was said by Seutonius to have “taught children of the most tender years, whom he called his little fishes, to play between his legs while he was in his bath. Those which had not yet been weaned, but were strong and hearty, he set at fellatio…”

Since boys in antiquity shared the experience of being buggered, Christianity constructed its central myth of the Father sending his son down to be penetrated by a soldier’s lance in order to restage the common experience of fathers giving their boys to a neighbor to be sexually penetrated. Those who accepted the myth, accepted the penetration, and were promised the Father’s love and Mary’s tears in return. Although Christianity attempted to reduce the outright killing of newborns, thus moving beyond the infanticidal mode, it continued the abandonment of children – whether by child sale or by sending to wet nurse or monastery or nunnery or foster family or to other homes as servants – which is why I labeled this second stage the abandoning mode. The refusal of parents to raise their own legitimate children was so powerful that through the nineteenth century over half of the children born in Florence, for instance, were dumped into foundling homes at birth, to be picked up by their families – if they lived that long (the majority died) – when they were around five years old, thus avoiding having homes where crying babies disturbed the peace. The same abandonment was common in France, where, in 1900, over 90 percent of the babies born in Paris were carted out to the countryside to wetnurses at birth. As one author put it, “mother love” was a late historical achievement, not an instinctual trait.

Despite the advance that just abandoning rather than outright killing your children represents, most of the other childrearing practices of antiquity continued in the middle ages, with the buggering of boys – even in monasteries – continuing to be widespread and even accepted by society. By the time boys were in their teens, they were so addicted to violent sex that they sometimes formed adolescent raping gangs that grabbed and raped any girls or young women they could find unprotected, to such an extent that the majority of women in some cities would have been raped by these gangs at some time in their lives.

The erotic beating of children continued in Christian times, because of the anxieties of living with a child who is so full of your projections. Children were experienced as always about to turn into “changelings,” those who, as St. Augustine puts it, “suffer from a demon” – which usually meant just that they cry too much, since the Malleus Maleficarum says that one can recognize changelings because they “always howl most piteously,” and since Luther says they “are more obnoxious than ten children with their crapping, eating, and screaming.”

That children with devils in them had to be beaten goes without saying. A panoply of beating instruments existed for that purpose, from cat-o’-nine tails and whips to shovels, canes, iron rods, bundles of sticks, the discipline (a whip made of small chains), the goad (shaped like a cobbler’s knife, used to prick the child on the head or hands) and special school instruments like the flapper, which had a pear-shaped end and a round hole to raise blisters. The beatings described in the sources were almost always severe, involved bruising and bloodying of the body, began in infancy, were usually erotically tinged by being inflicted on bare parts of the body near the genitals and were a regular part of the child’s daily life. Century after century of battered children grew up to batter their own children in turn. Public protest was rare. Even humanists and teachers who had a reputation for gentleness approved of the severe beating of children. Those who attempted reform did so only to prevent death. As a thirteenth-century law said, “If one beats a child until it bleeds, then it will remember, but if one beats it to death, the law applies.” As Batholomew Batty put it, parents must “keep the golden mean,” which is to say they should not “strike and buffet their children about the face and head, and to lace upon them like malt sacks with cudgels, staves, fork or fire shovel,” for then they might die of the blows. The correct way, he said, was to “Hit him upon the sides…with the rod, he shall not die thereof.”

By the thirteenth century in the West, abandonment via oblation, or the giving of young children to monasteries for sexual and other uses, was ended, the first disapproval of pedophilia appeared, the first childrearing tracts were published and some advanced parents began to practice what I have termed the ambivalent mode of childrearing, where the child was not born completely evil, but was seen as being still full of enough dangerous projections so that the parent, whose task it was to mold it, must beat it into shape like clay. Church moralists for the first time began to warn against sexual molestation of children by parents, nurses and neighbors (the mothers had previously been instructed to masturbate their boys “so their yards will grow long”). The length of time of swaddling was eventually reduced from a year or more to only a few months. Pediatrics and educational philosophy were born. Parents of means began suggesting that perhaps rather than sending their infants out to be wetnursed in some peasant village – and thereby condemning over half of them to early death – the mother might herself nurse her infant. The baby, said some mothers who began to try nursing their own babies, even responds to this care by giving love back to the nursing mother, stroking her breast and face and cooing. And if the father, as often happened, complained that his wife’s breast belonged to him not the baby, these bold new mothers suggested that the father should be allowed to hold the baby too.

These childhood reforms immediately preceded and thereby produced the humanistic, religious and political revolutions we associate with early modern times. For the fifteenth and sixteenth centuries in Western Europe represent the great watershed of psychogenic change, wherein vastly improved childrearing allowed at least some of the schizoid and borderline personalities of antiquity and medieval times – who regularly heard voices and hallucinated visions – to move on to the more integrated, less splitting modern neurotic personality more familiar to recent times, thus achieving Melanie Klein’s “depressive position.” The sixteenth-century watershed in childrearing allowed people to reduce splitting and feel real depression for the first time, as can be seen in the popularity of Renaissance melancholy (Hamlet’s admirable depressive guilt), the ability of Protestants to end the good mother/bad mother splitting of Mary/Eve, and the ability to internalize the projective panoply of split Catholic saints/devils into Protestant depressive guilt. With this vast improvement in childrearing – in some families at least – the modern world could begin, with the development of science, technology and democratization now being possible in parts of the West.

By the seventeenth century, the intrusive mode of childrearing began, particularly in England, America and France, whereby the child was seen as less full of dangerous projections, so it could actually be unswaddled soon after birth, not given regular enemas (which had until then been given daily from birth to remove the bad contents felt to be inside the infant), toilet trained early rather than late, hit but not regularly whipped, and punished for masturbation rather than being masturbated by adults. It eventually became unacceptable for men to go about with a mistress on one arm and a catamite on the other, though underground seduction of minors continued. Intrusive parenting, in essence, began to substitute psychological pressure for physical abuse, so that rather than whipping the child to prevent it from sin, it was, for instance, shut up in the dark closets for hours or left without food, sometimes for days. One mother shut her three-year-old boy up in a drawer. Another had a house she described as “a sort of little Bastille, in every closet of which was to be found a culprit – some were sobbing and repeating verbs, others eating their bread and water…” Another five-year-old French boy, in looking at a new apartment with his mother, told her, “Oh no, mama…it’s impossible; there’s no dark closet! Where could you put me when I’m naughty.”

Although erotic whipping of children decreased gradually, the intrusive mode required nevertheless a steady pressure on the child to “break its will” and discipline it properly. This breaking of the will began early. John Wesley’s mother said of her babies, “When turned a year old (and some before), they were taught to fear the rod, and to cry softly.” One would never know, she claimed, that children were present in her house. Rousseau confirmed that in France babies in their earliest days were often beaten to keep them quiet. Another mother wrote of her first battle with her four-month-old infant, “I whipped him til he was actually black and blue, and until I could not whip him any more, and he never gave up one single inch.” One can sense in this description of baby battering the struggle with the mother’s own powerful parent, with the baby seen as so obstinate that it “won the battle” even after being beaten. In fact, this “double image” of the child as both a powerful adult and a wicked child accounts for the merging of beater and beaten in our myriad historical accounts of child abuse. Here, for instance, is an early American father describing the beating of his four-year-old boy for not being able to read something. The child is first tied up naked in the cellar. Then, the father writes,

With him in this condition, and myself, the wife of my bosom, and the lady of my family, all of us in distress, and with hearts sinking within us, I commenced using the rod…During this most unpleasant, self denying and disagreeable work, I…felt all the force of divine authority and express command that I ever felt in any case in all my life…But under the all controlling influence of such a degree of angry passion and obstinacy, as my son had manifested, no wonder he thought he “should beat me out,” feeble and tremulous as I was; and knowing as he did that it made me almost sick to whip him. At that he could neither pity me nor himself.

This picture of the merging of parent and child, with the father complaining that he is the one “beaten out” and in need of pity, is common for the intrusive mode. Similar confusion between parent and child can be seen in the severe punishments for masturbation championed by the child-training literature since Tissot. Prior to this, children were masturbated by adults and even licked on their bodies as though they were substitute breasts. For instance, Little Louis XIII, in 1603, was described by his pediatrician as having his penis and breasts kissed by everyone in the court, and his parents would regularly make him part of sexual intercourse in the royal bed. But childrearing reformers beginning in the eighteenth century began to try to bring this open sexual abuse under control, only it was the child who was now punished for touching his or her genitals, under threat of circumcision, clitoridectomy, infibulation and various cages and other genital restraint devices. These terrorizing warnings and surgical interventions only began to die out at the end of the nineteenth century, after two hundred years of brutal and totally unnecessary assault on children’s bodies and psyches for touching themselves. Despite the reformers’ efforts, progress was so uneven that one British journalist could write in 1924 that “cases of incest are terribly common in all classes. [Usually] the criminal…goes unpunished…Two men coming out from [an incest] trial were overheard saying to a woman who deplored there had been no conviction, ‘What nonsense! Men should not be punished for a thing like that. It doesn’t harm the child.’”

It goes without saying that the effects on the child of these physical and psychological punishments were immense. Adults remembered that as children they had had recurring nightmares and even outright hallucinations as they lay awake at night, terrorized by imaginary ghosts, demons, “a witch on the pillow,” “a large black dog under the bed,” or “a crooked finger crawling across the room.” History is filled with reports of children’s convulsive fits, dancing manias, loss of hearing and speech, loss of memory, hallucinations of devils and confessions of intercourse with devils. Nor did the parents help their children’s mental anguish by giving them comfort. It was thought that the way for children to get over their fears was to make them face fear even more concretely, so adults used to take children on visits to the gibbet to inspect rotting corpses hanging there, while being told moral stories. Classes used to be taken out of school to witness hangings, and parents would also sometimes take their children to hangings and then beat them when they returned home to make them remember what they had seen. Even humanists, like Mafio Vegio, who protested the severe beating of children, would admit that “to let them witness a public execution is sometimes not at all a bad thing.”

The effect on the children of this corpse-viewing was of course massive. One little girl, after her mother showed her the fresh corpse of her nine-year-old friend as an example, went around saying, “They will put daughter in the deep hole, and what will mother do?” Another woke at night screaming after seeing hangings, and “practiced hanging his own cat.” Religion was a further source of terrorizing. God was said to “hold you over the pit of hell, much as one holds a spider, or some loathsome insect, over the fire” and children’s books depicted Hell as follows: “The little child is in this red-hot oven. Hear how it screams to come out…It stamps its little feet on the floor…” Various terrorizing figures were used to control the child. If you were bad, the werewolf would gulp you down, Blue Beard would chop you up, Boney (Bonaparte) would eat your flesh, the black man or the chimney sweep would steal you away at night. This need to personify punitive figures was in fact so powerful that adults actually dressed up dummies to use in frightening children. As one English writer, in 1748, explained the practice:

The nurse takes a fancy to quiet the peevish child, and with this intent, dresses up an uncouth figure, makes it come in, and roar and scream at the child in ugly disagreeable notes, which grate upon the tender organs of the ear, and at the same time, by its gesture and near approach, makes as if it would swallow the infant up.

Another writer, in 1882, described how the nurse of a friend’s child wanted to leave for the evening while the parents were out, and so told the little girl that a

horrible Black Man…was hidden in the room to catch her the moment she left her bed…[Then] she made a huge figure of a black man with frightful staring eyes and an enormous mouth, and placed it at the foot of the bed where the little innocent child was fast asleep. As soon as the evening was over…[she] went back to her charge. Opening the door quietly, she beheld the little girl sitting up in her bed, staring in an agony of terror at the fearful monster before her, both hands convulsively grasping her fair hair. She was stone dead!

By the nineteenth century’s socializing mode, some parents no longer needed to terrorize, beat and sexually seduce their children, and more gentle psychological means began to be used to “socialize” the child. The socializing mode is still the main model of upbringing in Western nations, featuring the mother as trainer and the father as provider and protector, and the child is seen as slowly being made to conform to the parents’ model of goodness. Many of the abusive practices are reduced in the home but remain elsewhere in society. While Elizabeth I was sexually seduced as a girl by her caretakers and Louis XV had Madame du Barry procure little girls for the King to rape in his royal bedroom, by the nineteenth century parents would less often commit incest themselves but still sent their children to schools where they were erotically whipped on the bare buttocks and usually buggered by the older boys and masters. As John Addington Symonds reported his experience as a boy at public school:

Every boy of good looks had a female name, and was recognized either as a public prostitute or as some bigger fellow’s ‘bitch.’ Bitch was the word in common usage to indicate a boy who yielded his person to a lover. The talk in the dormitories and the studies was incredibly obscene. Here and there one could not avoid seeing acts of onanism, mutual masturbation, or the sports of naked boys in bed together.

Reformers during the nineteenth century tried to bring the rest of society into the socializing mode by legislation designed to prevent outright battering and sexual abuse of children, which of course still went on in the majority of families around them. But those who tried to oppose buggering and beating boys in schools were opposed by parents who said “It didn’t hurt me.” Those who tried to pass child labor legislation to reduce horrendous working conditions and hours were labeled Communists. And those who thought one could bring up children kindly were considered impractical visionaries.

Even so, the decrease in parental seduction and beating during the intrusive mode produced an explosion of social innovation, allowing nations to produce the democratic and industrial revolutions of the modern period. As Hanns Sachs pointed out long ago in his paper “The Delay of the Machine Age,” when people in antiquity first invented the steam engine, they dared to use it only for children’s toys. It was only after fifteen centuries of childrearing evolution that steam could finally begin to be used by less fearful and more individuated adults to provide power for the benefit of mankind. As hellfire and physical discipline were replaced by other childrearing methods, it was the socializing psychoclass that built the modern world, with its democratic, innovative and class-dominated society.

What kind of society might be envisioned by children brought up under the latest childrearing mode – what I have termed the helping mode – whereby a minority of parents are now trying to help their children reach their own goals at each stage of life, rather than socializing them into adult goals – is yet to be seen. I suspect it will be far less class-centered and more empathic of others than is the socializing modern world with which we are familiar. That helping mode children grow up to be incapable of creating wars is also becoming evident from watching the anti-war activities of my children and those of their friends who have been brought up by other helping mode parents. For war is only understandable as a sacrificial ritual in which young men are sent by their parents to be hurt and killed as representatives of the independence-seeking parts of themselves. Psychohistorians have regularly found that images on the magazine covers and in political cartoons in the months prior to wars reveal fears of the nation becoming “too soft” and vulnerable, with images of dangerous women threatening to engulf and hurt people. These regressed group-fantasies eventually produce so much anxiety that a sacrifice of innocent victims is deemed necessary, and another nation who also needs a sacrifice is located. So regular are these group-fantasies in the media that I was able to forecast, for instance, the recent Persian Gulf War months before Iraq invaded Kuwait by locating in the American media an upsurge in imagery of devouring mommies and guilty children needing punishment.

That periodic sacrifices are in fact lawful is suggested by the regularity with which they occur, nearly every state producing a major war on the average of about every 25 years throughout the past two millennia. In between wars, periodic economic sacrifices serve to relieve our guilt for too much prosperity and to cleanse us of our dangerous economic and social progress. Depth psychology has shown that in individuals progress toward individuation and success often produces regression, including both fears of leaving mommy and wishes for maternal re-engulfment, along with fears of losing one’s self. In nations, the same thing occurs after periods of rapid change and prosperity, and is defended against by the sacrificial ritual called war.

THE TASK OF THE FUTURE

That all social violence – whether by war, revolution or economic exploitation – is ultimately a consequence of child abuse should not surprise us. The propensity to reinflict childhood traumas upon others in socially-approved violence is actually far more able to explain and predict the actual outbreak of wars than the usual economic motivations, and we are likely to continue to undergo our periodic sacrificial rituals of war if the infliction of childhood trauma continues. Clear evidence has been published in The Journal of Psychohistory that the more traumatic one’s childhood, the more one is likely to be in favor of military solutions to social problems. Technologically, the human race is now quite able to satisfy its needs – if we can live together without violence. But unless we now employ our social resources toward consciously assisting the evolution of childrearing, we will be doomed to the periodic destruction of our resources, both material and human. To Selma Freiberg’s dicta that “Trauma demands repetition” I would only add “repetition in social behavior.” We cannot be content to only continue to do endless repair work on damaged adults, with more jails and police and therapists and political movements. Our task now must be to create an entirely new profession of “child helpers” who can reach out to every new child born on earth and help its parents give it love and independence.

Such a parent outreach movement is already under way in a few cities, and special issues of The Journal of Psychohistory have been published to document its operation. A special issue on “Changing Childhood” is the most recent to be published, showing the success of parent outreach projects in several states. The success of parenting centers such as the one pioneered in Boulder, Colorado, for instance, has been astonishing. Through parenting classes and home visiting by paraprofessionals, they have measurably reduced child abuse, as shown by careful followup studies and by reduced police reports and hospital entrance rates. All this has been accomplished with very small monetary outlays, since these parent outreach centers operate mainly with volunteer labor, while it has the potential to save trillions of dollars annually in the costs of social violence, police enforcement, jails and other consequences of the widespread child abuse of today.

Such a parent support movement would resemble the universal education movement of over a century ago. People then objected to providing universal education, by saying, “Well, yes, perhaps free education is useful for all children – but that would require hiring millions of teachers. How can we afford it?” We, too, admit that we will eventually need millions of parent helpers to teach parents how to bring up children and produce non-violent adults. But the teaching of parenting is just the unfinished half – the most important half – of the free education movement of the past, with its goal the empowerment of children to realize their innate capacities for love and work.

Changing childhood is a communal task. And it works. In 1979, Sweden passed a law saying that hitting children was as unlawful as hitting adults! Imagine the audacity! Children were people, just like adults! Parents who hit their children weren’t put into jail – that would just deprive the children of their caretakers. But the parents were taught how to bring up children without hitting them. And at the same time, high school students were taught how to bring up children without violence. By now, 20 years later, these high school students have their own children, and…surprise! They don’t hit them!

To those who object to the cost of communities helping all parents, we can only reply: Can we afford not to teach parenting? What more important task can we devote our resources to? Do we really want to have massive armies and jails and emotionally crippled adults forever? Must each generation continue to torture and neglect its children so they repeat the violence and economic exploitation of previous generations? Why not achieve meaningful political and social revolution by first achieving a parenting revolution? If war, social violence, class domination and economic destruction of wealth are really revenge rituals for childhood trauma, how else can we remove the source of these rituals? How else end child abuse and neglect? How else increase the real wealth of nations, our next generation? How else achieve a world of love and laughter of which we are truly capable?

It appears we have our work cut out for us.

A Brief African centered cirtique of the hit film "Precious" and its psychological implications.

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Precious was an intensely emotional film.

The events that occured in her life seem unrealistic, but I guess anything is possible.

I do believe that this was a much needed film to make because it highlights just how hard it is for some of our people to be successful in life (a point I make all the time).

However, I also believe that the reason why so many people like this movie is because of hidden agendas we all have about issues of race and class in this country.

First, lets talk about the plot real quick.

Precious is a movie about a young black 16 year old girl trapped in a destructive lifestyle seemingly caused by her mother and father.

She lives in a dark, drab apartment and the setting is 1987 Harlem.

Precious lives with her mother who chronically abuses her; throwing random foreign objects at her head when she's angry, calling her the most reprehensible names in the english language and sometimes making her perform sexual favors for her (intrigued yet).

Her father doesnt live wit her but he has raped and molested her since she was 3 and Precious already had a child by him and is now pregnant again with another child belonging to him.

As the movie progresses Precious is transferred from a regular public junior high school to a charter school where she is in a class with other troubled young teens.

To make a long story short, she has her baby, gets in an unbelievably violent altercation with her mother and leaves the household.

Her teacher finds her a place to stay and the movie ends on a highly emotionally note when the mother (played by foul mouth Monique) after a year of not seeing her, tells Precious why she treated her the way she did.

Oh and did I mention Precious also contacted HIV from her father.

Sad isnt it?

Oh the HORROR of inner city existence!

This movie makes it seem as if these grotesque indiscretions only go on in the inner city amongst lower class black people.

Nothing can be further from the truth.

There is no study on child abuse and incest that suggests the poor people in this country have a monopoly on this kind of behavior.

Incest and child abuse occur equally amongst all class levels.

In fact, white people of all classes commit way more rape, incest and child abuse then black people could ever even think about doing

Its not even close.

You see it on the news all the time.

Did you hear about the white guy from Austria that kept his daughter in the basement while he raped her for 24 years.

By the way did I mention he also had 6 CHILDREN BY HIS OWN DAUGHTER (real life).

Why didnt they make a movie about that?

Oh yeah did you hear about the white boy from Victoria, Australia who raped his daughter for over 30 years and had 4 children by her.

We can bring it back to the states.

The cases of white fathers and mothers molesting children are too numerous to name here.

Lets go to a more bizarre story.

How about the white girl from Texas who EATS HER BABIES BRAIN WHILE SHE WAS STILL ALIVE!!

UNBELIEVABLE!

I guess Oprah and Tyler Perry missed that story.

So don’t believe the hype that there is something wrong with “those” people(talking about poor blacks now) as if they are somehow different from yours.

Just like there are molesters running around the hood there are plenty running around the suburbs as well.

I’ve talked to sisters and have heard stories from other black women about how they were raped in their first year of college or molested repeatedly by a family member or friend of the family.

These women have a seemingly normal life.

They pay their taxes, go to work and seem to live a relatively normal existence but you do notice little patterns in their behavior that suggest they may have abused before (especially the ones who have a hard time maintaining intimate relationships with the opposite sex).

This is an underlying occurance that happened and continues to happen in some of our households regardless of race and class and you know it!

So in conclusion be thankful that you didnt have an experience that was as traumatic and damaging as Precious's but realize that the media try’s to make it seem as if black people are more evil, more criminal and more savage than whites (when they are the most evil, savage and criminal "people" the world has ever seen according to their own record)!

Be careful not to believe that garbage yourself.

To commemorate world AIDS day i am going to give you the cure to AIDS now.

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Disclaimer: Information not intended to help cure any disease of any kind. Only for educational purposes only (I have to say this or they will throw me in jail).

I told you what i would do if i had HIV or full blown AIDS in the The No BS Way To Cure Yourself of HIV/AIDS in 30 Days Or Less (no bullshit, just facts).

I would still follow that formula but there are also some other techniques and other herbal formulas I would take in order to speed up the process.

Now many of the top herbalists of the 20th century use what's called the incurables program to cure themselves and others of any so called incurable disease that the doctor says has no cure for it.

Im not going to give you the whole program but i am going to highlight some of the most effective techniques they use to give you remarkable results fast..

First you have to do the hot and cold showers.

Before we go into that though let me explain something first.

All illnesses and dis-ease come from the lack of free flowing circulation all over the body and a lack of oxygen getting to the effected area.

If a part of the body is hurt or ill you have to get the blood flowing to the area and the blood that flows there has to be rich with oxygen.

Hot and cold showers will get the blood to the wounded area guaranteed.

Basically you get into the shower and you run the hottest water you can stand on the wound for 15 seconds to 1 minute.

Then you switch the dial all the way to ice cold and run that freezing water on the area for another 15 seconds to a minute and repeat this method 7 times (more if you can stand it).

Doesnt that sound like fun lol.

You will do a lot of screaming and hollering but you will get healed.

Why does this work?

When you apply hot water to the skin it gets red.

That means the blood vessels are bringing the blood to the surface.

When you apply cold water to the skin the blood vessels send the blood deep into the body.

So when you are continuously running very hot and very cold water on the body you are increasing circulation thus blowing away any blockages that stand in the blood vessels way.

Simple isnt it.

It doesnt matter how many herbs you take if the blood isnt getting to the affected area forget it.

You need to do the hot and cold showers.

2nd you need to do enemas and have other people do them for you.

You have to get that bowl clean if you want a chance to cure yourself of AIDS.

Enema's help you do that.

You can do enemas on yourself but its best when others do them for you (especially when you are sick).

You should also use herbs when getting an enema.

Slippery elm helps to draw the excess fecal matter out of the bowl and secum, and catnip helps to sooth any cramps you may have (only use a little of the two and increase the dosage of the 2 when necessary).

You'll probably have to do 3 to 4 enemas before you even reach the colon (use distilled water too not tap water).

3rd you have to do the cold sheet treatment

This is probably the most intense portion of the incurables program but it is needed when you may die any day of a serious illness (especially full blown AIDS).

For the cold sheet we are trying to increase the temperature of the body because your body kills introjected pathogens and viruses faster with every degree of temperature rise.

If you have a fever dont suppress it with drugs because your body is cleaning itself out.

So the first thing we do is cover everything from the bed to the hallway to the bathroom with plastic because you will travel from the bathroom back to the bedroom and you will be wet while you are walking back (you definately need other people to help you by the way).

Next have plenty of clean sheets available and put a large cold wheet into a bucket of ice (about 10 pounds of ice).

Next get some cayenne pepper, some powdered mustard and some powdered ginger and make a lagre tea bag out of it using a wsh cloth or small towel ( a hand towel will be nice if you have one).

Draw a hot bath and put the tea bag into it (keep all of the contents from spilling into the water at one time).

Next draw a big kettleful of peppermint tea (the tea makes the body sweat thus increasing the temperature).

Now before the sick person goes into the bath make sure they put lots of vaseline on their most sensitive parts (penis, vagina, nipples, testicles, anus).

They should also have a bra on (if they are a woman) and some underwear on preferably swim wear or a bathing suit.

Now put them in the tub and give them as much peppermint tea as they will take (keep increasing the dose because you are helping the temperature to rise).

They are going to cry a lot they may even cramp up (if they cramp up use a loebillia tincture, take them out of the bath and apply it to the cramping areas).

Some may faint (if they faint have your cayenne tincture there and put a few drops on their tongue, they will be revived immediately).

Some people relive episodes from the past its an intense experience.

Keep them in for as long as you can (at least 10 minutes) and take them out.

When you take them out wrap the cold sheet around them and walk them to the bedroom (your floor wont get wet becaue you applied enough plastic right?).

Put them on the bed and wrap the cold sheet around their whole body exposing the face and covering the feet as well.

Wrap two other cotton blankets around them and wrap a towel around their head and they are not going to move for at least 24 hours (if they have to go they can go there).

This treatment is dramatic.

When you get the person out of the sheet you will see the sheet turn colors like red brown green because this procedure cleanses the body of toxins as well.

Dr. Christopher said this woman had brown eyes and when she finished the treatment she had blue ones lol.

There are other things you can do and we'll talk about these on a later date but if you use these 3 formulas along with the no BS one you will well be on your way to healing yourself of AIDS.

This formula wont work for all but for most it will.

The Crucible of Masculinity: Rehashing vital lessons our African ancestors taught us about how to be worthy men.

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Manhood is a test that all men have to take and hopefully pass in order to be granted the status of being a full fledged man.

Nobody demands that adult females act like "real women" because they are considered to be women in most societies when they start menstruating.

However, we aren’t so apt to give adult males in this society that jealously guarded label, a “real man,” simply because they are mature in their physical development.

They have tests they must transcend in order to earn that title.

We already told you what those characteristics are in the 7 Responsibilities every man has to fulfill in life.

Now I want to give you an example of how real men rise above their fear and incompetencies using the example of the Samburu people from Kenya.

The Samburu Journey to Manhood

The Samburu boys are separated from their mothers and forced into the bush to endure the rites of passage that lead to maturity at the tender age of 12 years old.

They are put through a number of harsh tests to see if they have what it takes to fit the bill of manhood and these tests last for more than 10 years.

The first test is the circumcision test.

With this test they must line up in a row facing their male family members and one by one they are circumcised without any anesthesia.

If they cry out or show pain of any kind they fail the manhood training test right then and there and he and his family are banished from the community and are looked down upon with shame and contempt forever.

Another test is the “cold turkey” test.

Here they are forced to give up the food they have enjoyed since they were toddlers like milk and sugary sweets and they cannot have anymore food prepared by women.

This is the hardest test for them to overcome because they have been accustomed to these foods and are now forced to dramatically relinquish their desire for them or suffer the consequence of failing the test of manhood.

Another crucial test is the ox killing test.

At this point they individually are required to go deep into the bush to find and kill a 3,500 pound ox.

When they get back they will have a big feast and the man will give the biggest piece of meat to his mother.

Now what are these tests saying?

The circumcision test says that in order for a man to be a full fledged man they have to learn how to endure a tremendous amount of pain and deal with it in order to provide for their women, children, tribe, region and race.

The cold turkey test says that men have to deny their own personal desires and get over their Peter Pan complex or their tendency to regress into a childlike state by killing any urges or habits that keep them from realizing their goals as men.

In regards to not eating any food from women it’s symbolically relating to the time when the baby was completely dependent on mothers milk to keep them alive.

Now since he is a man he doesn’t need the mother to provide for him because he can do it himself.

This is tied into the ox killing test.

By being brave enough to go into the woods in the cold and darkness to steal and kill an ox they are suggesting that in order to be a worthy man males must have the courage and persistence to do what is necessary to provide for their own.

That means killing, stealing or just putting up with a whole bunch of bullshit you don’t want to put up with.

When he gives the biggest piece of meat to his mother he is saying that instead of being a consumer, taking from others and burdening them, now I am the giver and producer, and it is MY turn to give without praise or recognition.

This signifies that men are the providers and it is their (and only their) responsibility to provide for their own.

What would happen if Afrikan Amerikans and men of Afrikan descent all over really lived by these masculine concepts our ancestors left for us?

Can you imagine what that world would look like?

The fun way to overcome procrastination!

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A good way (i think) to overcome procrastination is to take the moments when you really dont want to do something (like she said in the picture above)and do it at that time.

And when you do it keep score of the times when you overcame procrastination.

Measure it against the times when you said fuck it and just didnt do it.

And after a month see what your score is.

If you have a good score this gives you the right not only to brag all over your blog about it and to your family and friends, but also to put down anybody else who chronically procrastinates (which is my favorite benefit actually).

Also teach other people this method (you learn better when you teach others).

Im going to start doing this tomorrow LOL (my score is now 0-1).

been real busy lately

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will be back with well written posts

will be back to give love to my blog buddies real soon

peace out

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ONE OF THE GREATEST LEADER WE EVER HAD: BUT NOBODY REMEMBERS HIM!!!

2009-08-07T16:19:00.002-04:00