This is a question that men and women have puzzled over since the first maan crept out on his partner. Well you are in luck because im gonna give you the answers today. But before i give them to you, i just want the guys to know something. Whatever people do to try and deamonize you for this problem, its not your fault. There is no class in school or in most cases no ones at home to teach men how to be faithful in their relationship. In fact there is a lot of social pressure for men to have multiple sexual partners because having multiple sex partners is seen to be associated with a personal assertion of ones masculinity in this culture. Plainly said, men think they are more manly when they can satisfy many women sexually. When you look at music videos, for instance, you see men routinely surrounded by so called beautiful, scantily clad women who adore them. Worship him. Fight over each other to have a chance merely to touch him. Fanatsy. But many of us have internalized these fantasies.
OK lol, so before we get too carried away, lets the reasons why men cheat!
Reason #1 - Men have been socially conditioned to believe that its perfectly fine to have sex with different partners whenever they feel like it.
We just talked a little on how this mentality is shaped. Just imagine seeing thousands of videos like this from boyhood to manhood. Seeing your father in many relationships with different women, and being personally attracted to many women yourself. You can now begin to have some sense of not only the social pressures, but the biological, natural pressures to act out this impulse with different women. This inclination must be controled in some way.
Reason #2 - The Man Feels Smothered By The One He's With
I think to understand this you have to understand how women show their love and affection in a relationship. When a woman has fallen for a man or loves a man, that man becomes her whole life. She's always talking about him, she thinks about him all the time, she's picking out her clothing to meet his taste, she's always pumping him for information to see what his favorite meal is, what his favorite this or that is (you get the picture lol). And this preoccupation with him causes her to want to share every part of her with him and have him do the same with her (because thats the way women are towards each other. The more they share about themselves the closer they feel towards each other.) Certainly men desire to share important experiences with their partners. And most definately we want to know what a woman likes so we can be more sucessful in making her happy (because that is what a man truly wants believe or not). But when men are sharing too much and are too intimate with women they are acting in a way that is outside of their nature. At that time they feel that they have to get away from the woman, momentarily to regroup and figure out how best to approach this situation on his own. When this happens the woman gets confused and wants to talk about this with the man. But he feels as if has to figure it out for himself. Anyway, when he's in this state he might blame the woman for being too needy, or begin to see other flaws in her because he doesnt understand that women act like that to show him how much she cares about him. So he might at this time conclude that this isnt the woman for me and at that time look for another woman or he might fall for another one who gives him the attention he had in the begining of the relationship with his present lover.
Reason #3 - He Feels That He Is Not Making His Partner Happy
When men have problems they take some alone time to think about solutions, they look to others for solutions, or if they still cant solve the problem forget about it. A man truly wants to make his woman feel happy because it produces more testosterone for him. This is a hormone that relieves stree and produces an overall sense of contentment in men. One of the main ways the man's body produces testosterone is through being sucessful in his pursuits. If he feels that no matter what he does he still cant make that woman happy than he naturally seeks someone else to make happy. Because his identity is wrapped around being successful in life and he feels he might have a better time attaining that success with someone else.
Now cheating isnt right because for one thing it causes a whole lot of confusion for a man and for another thing, you reap what you sow. So how can a man prevent himself from giving into his desires to have an affair.
#1 - Make sure you know the nature of a woman.
Just because a woman wants a man to share all of his personal feelings and wants to share herself completely with her doesnt mean that she's too needy or that she's not the one. It just a natural way of giving love. (BTW the way a man naturally wants to express his love is through sex (that is a true statement lol). So when she acts like this dont hold it against her.
#2 - Stay Faithful and have sex with just one woman so you can know for sure if she's right for you or not!
This is why you cant mess with many women at the same time because when you are continuously bouncing off of different women you dont know who you are really in love with (i really need to explain why this is the case but this post is getting too long). Find the one you are most interested in. Stay monogamous to her for an extended period of time. And if you start to realize that she isnt the one for you, cut her off and try someone else.
#3 - Whenever you see an attractive woman or think about an attractive woman or a sexual experience you might have had with one, focus on a the best sexual experience you had with your partner.
John Gray talks bout this in a talk i saw on google video's (i'll leave a link later). This technique is called anchoring, pairing one experience with another to draw power from one of these experiences. If you continuously think about sex with your current partner whenever you start to have attractive feelings for another woman all of that sexual energy is being directe towards the one you're with now and your sexual experiences with this woman will be much more fulfilling. Trust me, ive actually tried this a few times. It might difficult to do at first because it seems strange and you might not even want to do it, but do it anyway and i bet the sexual experiences with your partner in the next coming weeks will be much much better.