- ask questions about the guy
- show an interest by getting involved in the conversation
- be glad that you came to him for advice and openly give it
- avoid direct eye contact
- try to assure you that he would never do anything like that (why is he trying to assure you if he's not even thinking about doing it)
- seem nervous or fidgety
- try to change the subject
Just to note, this works for guys too. Women display the same signs (sorry ladies).
Like I said, this can be used in any situation.
If you think somebody stole something from you. You can say to the person, who you think might have stolen it, something like, "somebody stole my (blank). It looks like they did this and that (what you think she might have done). What should I do to find out who it was?"
Remember the chart from above. If they perform at least two behaviors in the innocent category, then they probably didn't do it. If they perform at least three in the guilty category, well.
I know this formula worked for me. Sometimes I didn't even intend to get information but I got it anyway because I brought up a taboo subject. The person avoided eye contact, seemed nervous and tried to change the subject (the triple whammy).
Note: it's best to do this in person. I did it over the phone and couldn't exactly tell.
This little trick might seem flaky or a little weird but try it. Play with it a little bit. You might be impressed with the results.
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