Monday, January 7, 2008

Whatta ya know: I've been tagged again by eb the celeb

Just so you know I'm not narcissistic or anything like that. I'm just trying to be a good blogger and do whatever anonymous people tell me to do. I've been tagged by my home girl eb the celeb to give seven more random facts about myself. So here we go.
#1 I can't stand anything on BET except for "Sunday's Best!"

I'm not even into church or religion but I like watching this show because my people's watch BET 24/7 and this is the only show that all of us can actually watch together (they hate lectures).
#2 I'm a candy hollic!

Oh God! When I see candy I just have to devour it! I can eat a pack of starbursts in 3 minutes. I need therapy for real.
#3 I'm not a big fan of "The Wire."
It's amazing how black women were sad to death when they killed off Stirnger Bell (Idris Alba). I can't believe some women were actually crying. LOL! But anyway, I watched the first 3 seasons and some of the scenes were filmed on the street I grew up on, but I'm not a big fan because I think that The Wire negatively paints the whole city with the same brush. Don't get me wrong, many of the things in the wire I lived through and saw with my own 2 eyes in some instances, but the whole city isn't like that. Yes the secretive down low stuff is more interesting, but how about we go into some uppity neighborhoods and display their dirty laundry before the world.

#4 I want to be one of the leading experts on improving black relationships!

I've read a lot of books and listened to a lot of material on relationships but I haven't seen many that fit our particular needs and tell things from our unique perspective. I plan to produce an audio book, at the end of this month, that's basically a how to manual for black couples in the 21st century (you should pick it up for yourself or anyone who needs it). It will also make a great birthday gift or Valentine's day gift too (kill me for a little self promoting). Eventually I'll do seminars, lectures and all that in the future.

#5 I'm obsessed with my ex!

I can't help it. After 22 years she was the first woman I ever loved! While I've dated others since then, whenever I think of the happiest moments in my life, some of the most recent ones were spent with her. I'm getting over it, but, sometimes I think about the times we had.

#6 I sang Stevie Wonder's "You and I" at my sister's wedding!

The most embarrassing shit! I grew up in the church singing on the choir (I had to sing because my grandfather was the paster and his children and grandchildren were the only ones who came). I actually took a singing class in college to learn how to sing better. At the time, however, I was smoking and I didn't believe that I could sing very well. She insisted that I do though so I did it, and I wish I could burn the tape of that incident. It was really bad! I was so bad that I apologized at the end of the song. I don't think she'll ever forgive me for that, but she insisted!

#7 I like to look at myself naked in the mirror sometimes!

I know I'm not the only one who likes doing this. Don't try to act like you don't! It's good therapy actually because if you can accept the imperfections of your body you are on the road to good mental health! Sometimes I say "I love you man" just to make myself feel better. I hug myself sometimes too.

Now I have to tag Seven people. I tag eb the celeb (now), trecia, a woman undeniable, desperate lady, lindawe, gerald and tai (how's it taste). Now you all have to tag three more and tell 7 random things about yourself. Peace!

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Eb the Celeb said...

hey there... no fair... you cant tag the person that tagged you... thats like the unspoken rule... and then you didnt even do the tag right... I dont know about you mr. tubman...LOL

Eb the Celeb said...

But aint nothin wrong with looking at ya self... seeing how low ya balls hang and such... wait did I say that out loud... and aint nothing wrong with hugging ya self either... Love ya self!!! I love me!!!...LOL

James Tubman said...

sorry boo

i'm still getting the "hang" of this tag thing

i didn't see that rule on your page my sister so ha

how's it taste

Eb the Celeb said...

I'm not doing it... arms folded and crossed as we speak... lip poked out and eyes drooped...

you were suppose to write 2 things for all the things that were listed... not give your own 7 things about ya self...LOL

but its all good... i will let you slide this time

James Tubman said...


i can see i've caused you much grief

and please don't hurt those beautiful lips

i'll do it

if it'll make you smile i'll do it for you baby

James Tubman said...

see that was a joke of mine

ahhhh i got you didn't i

TravelDiva said...

Hilarious post.

Interesting on the wire. I'm from Maryland--Prince George's though. I love The Wire, but I TOTALLY understand. From watching the show, you would think that nothing good comes from Baltimore, MD and it's ALL hood. With that said, I think it's a compelling drama.

Don said...

The song You & I used to bring tears to my eyes...which brings me to an ex-girl of mines who I swear I will love forever.

Good luck on the manual speaking about Black Relationships.

And I am a HUGE fan of The Wire. It contains excellent writing. Solid acting too.

Divine Blackness said...

I, too have been anti-BET for quite sometime. I can't name any of their programming. Except maybe Lift Every Voice and Comicview. And I too am obsessed with candy. It's insane because I've never had a cavity. Never watched The Wire and wow....lovin' yourself naked is a beautiful thang.

Miss Yasmine said...

Have you ever read "Hung" by Scott Poulson-Bryant? I think you might find it an interesting read. You seem like the kinda' brotha that could handle it...
PS: I look at myself

James Tubman said...

@travel d... i don't think that any show should be sanctioned but if you are dish out the dirt in the hood dish out your dirt too

i don't want to get too explicit but it's stuff going on in their communities as well

@don... the wire does expose some corporate and political curruption but the scale isn't balanced

ghettos don't create themselves

and thanx for the support dawg

@i generalized too much concerning bet

they have some good programming like american gangster and beef

sugar is aa drug you know, it does cause the body to act differntly

i don't know if ishould have put the naked thing in thier though

some things you might need to keep to yourself

@miss y... i just read a brief synopsis of the book

interesting material

the stereotype is both good and bad

but i think that most women are hip to the myth

in a documentary called "ethnic notions" by a brilliant director named marlon riggs he states that the media's portrayl of blacks has always been rooted in the stereotypes that black people are ugly, savage and are happy servants

this stereotype helps to promote the racist belief that black males are over sexualized savage beasts

thus following right in line with white supremacist thinking

you should really check out the piece

sorry if i got too serious

Mizrepresent said...

So you have a good grasp on relationships huh! Can't wait for your audiotape...sounds interesting. Oh yeah, i love mirrors!

diary of a G said...

the mirror should be urself best friend especially when ur alone

Afrodite said...

Lol at the Starburst thing. I can ter some candy up too!

James Tubman said... remember hamsterdam

that was right around the corner from where i used to live

i remember being over my mothers house and seeing like mad people just storming from that lil ass block (it's more like an alley)

i was like what the hell

those testers must be popin off today lol

nikki said...

i had to laugh at number six and seven. funny ish, especially how bad you sang.

Muze said...

this is funny. we have a lot in common! lol. i HATE BET. i am a recovering candyholic (i've been sugar free for two weeks now. hey, it's progress. lol) and i love looking at myself naked. i'm going to sing 'heaven' by kelly rowland to my bf when we get married. maybe. lol. and omg stevie wonder is the best alive. seriously. overjoyed is going to be the song i dance to. maybe. lol.

James Tubman said...

i love overjoyed to

but another one of my favorites is "with each beat of my heart"

you rarely hear it, but it's a gem

James Tubman said...

@nikki... it wasn't funny at the time lol

TILshopgirl said...

glad someone wants to help black relationships.

strawberry starburts is the BEST!

I hug myself too . . . and pretend I'm Idris Elba hugging me

Best thing I saw on BET - crank that year back - had me crying it was so funny!

who was this little girl you were in love with at 4 years old?

James Tubman said...

i must have said it wrong

i was in love at 22 and we were in a relationship for 4 years

i don't remember from 4 uears old

i only hold myself when i feel vulnerable and used lol