Assessing Your RMV Romantic Market Value

This could be the best advice on dating you will ever get. I was recently reading the book

"Black and Single: Meeting and choosing a partner that is right for you"

By: Dr. Larry E. Davis

and i have to admit i was pleasantly surprised to see that he actually did a good job of assessing the dating terrain for black people and coming up with a good unit of measuring weather a person is good for us or not.

Im not saying it's a perfect model but at least its fair and realistic.

Im selling this book too for $20.00. Click on the icon above or to the side to purchase.

For your own benefit I recommend that you get it because it gives a lot of great information on what you should look for in a partner and it gives you a way to assess your own expectations when you are searching for a partner (something that many of us dont have a clue about in actuality).

He has created something called the RMV scale (Romantic Market Value). This scale basically lets you know where you are in terms of attractiveness, employment staus, income and so forth on a scale from one to 10. You use this scale to measure where you are and where you want your potential partner to be.

Level of Attractiveness 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

(unattractive) (average) (attractive)

Employment Status 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
(none) (part time) (full time)

Professional Status 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

(unskilled) (semi-professional) (professional)

Annual Income 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

(10K -25K) (30K - 45K) (50K - 75K) (75 and above)

Education 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

(high school) (college graduate) (graduate degree)

Social Status 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

(low) (medium) (high)

(among your friends, colleagues, and the broader community)

You can also make up some of your own categories too. This is how you do it. You measure yourself first. And BE HONEST lol! Then you go out looking for a partner with similar numbers. We do better with partners who are similar to us in many ways.

To be honest you dont really need people who have numbers similar to you. It always helps to be honest. Put the numbers that you want out of a partner and shoot for it. Who knows things might work out.

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his is a scale to measure the traits of a potential partner.

It is important that my partner be:

Honest

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Ambitions

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Sensitive

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Highly Sexual (likes frequent sex)

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Financially Sensible (likes to save money)

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Religious

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Kind

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

A Homebody

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

A Sports Fan

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Funny

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Family Minded

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Civic Minded

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Good at Communicating

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Sociable (likes to party and be with people)

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Athletic

Desirable 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Essential

Again you can add your own categories. This is for you so you can use it anyway you want. I really like these scales because its simple and it makes a lot of sense. I remember a little while back i had a little scuffle with a fellow blog member because i dint agree with her assessment that you should only look for men who make as much or more than her. I didnt understand it at the time but she was right. I just believe that you can turn anyone into what you want them to be (maybe im lying, maybe i dont really believe that).

And how do you get this information from your partner? Davis does talk about it. I would just whip it out maybe after a few weeks of dates and telephone conversations. In many cases you can get the information from people though casual conversation. Be observant.

I wouldnt be afraid to ask the personal questions either. The more information you get from a person, the more quickly you can come to a decision about whether this person is right for you.

Have fun!