How to feel pleasure while doing something that you might not want to do

We feel great about ourselves when we are respecting ourselves.

We are showing ourselves respect when we live according to our beliefs and values.

We feel terrible when we violate those beliefs and values.

According to David Lieberman in his book “How to change anybody”, the three orientations from which all human beings act is the body, ego and soul.

When you act from the body state, you are just doing what comes easy as opposed to what is right.

If you act from the egotistical standpoint then you are trying your best to look good instead trying your best to do what you know to be appropriate.

However, if you behave and act from the valley of the soul then you are doing what you believe to be the best thing to do, and as a result, the universe rewards you for your behavior with excellent self-esteem.

So if you want to feel good all the time, always act in accordance with your core beliefs (or soul).

In other words if you believe that drinking is bad for your health then when you decide not to drink you feel great because you loved and cared about yourself enough not to participate in your own self destruction.

This gives you an indescribable feeling of personal joy and satisfaction.

Your body might react physiologically to the absence of the drug by making you sick but you feel good on a deep level because you showed yourself how much you loved yourself in the face of the overwhelming temptation to drink.

However if you go against your core belief and drink anyway you feel bad that you did not have the will power to stop yourself from killing yourself.

When human beings do not want to face up to certain negative behaviors that they have engaged in they rationalize their behavior to make it seem as if it was the right thing to do.

This may work for a while but the pain will come back and often the human being who feels lousy transfers that negative feeling on to an innocent target (takes out the anger they feel towards themselves on a person who did not cause them to be angry).

When deciding on what course of action to take in any given situation, first ask yourself, “what should I be doing in this situation”?

Once you figure out, from deep down inside, what you should be doing, DO IT!

If you do not you are going to wish you did in the future.

If you really do not know what the best solution is, do some research, ask somebody who you think will know or act anyway on what you feel and see if it gives you the desired result.

If that behavior did not give you the kind of result you wanted do not do it again or you will get the same result or worse.