How to be happy no matter what

Everyone wants to be happy. Sigmund Freud, the founder of modern psychology, says that all people are motivated by the pleasure principle. That is, anything that gives us pleasure we move closer towards, and anything that brings us pain we move further away from. He thought that this was the primary motivating force behind all of our actions. If this is true then our happiness must be very important.

Sometimes the pursuit of happiness can lead us to do things that make us miserable in the long run like consume harmful substances that hurt our bodies or kill and destroy the lives of others.

You don’t have to do this.

Here’s a small list of things that have been scientifically proven to work and will work for you if you ever find yourself in a painful mental state:

Dedicate your life to using whatever talents God gave you to help Black people solve their problems.

Deepak Chopra, an Indian motivational speaker, says that if you want anything in life, give it to others and you will eventually receive it yourself. You have an obligation to those who come after you because the ones who came before paved the way to where you are now. If thousands of people didn’t march in the streets to ensure our civil rights then many of us wouldn’t have the opportunities we have right now. We are most happy when we are making other people happy.

Talk with the family members and friends that make you happy.

This seems obvious but many of us don’t do this. Some of us want to suffer alone especially men and this is understandable. However, sometimes you have to get it off your chest so go to someone who you know for sure will be supportive. We experience joy when we know that other people care for us unconditionally.

Focus on the valuable things you already have and be thankful for them.

If your doctor told you that you were going to lose your eyesight in the next seven days you would really appreciate your eyesight for the next seven days and beyond. Many of us don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone. Realize that at any given time what you have could be gone. If you thank God for what you have everyday then you’ll be happier in life.

Think about someone who’s in a worse situation than you and thank God that you are not in that same situation.

Shows like Jerry Springer and Maury Povich are designed to get people to focus on the problems of others to get their attention off of their own issues, and to laugh at the problems of others. I don’t know if you should necessarily laugh at other people’s problems because you might feel guilty later. But you can certainly thank God that you are not in that same condition. Just imagine how it would be if you were struck with that kind of affliction. That’s all it takes.

Focus on a time in your life when you were happy and mentally put yourself in that state.

This is called an anchor in psychology. An anchor is basically a cue or signal that reminds us of something else. For example, if you procrastinate a lot, you can remember a time where you actually did a job well and got it done on time. Now if you’re about to meet a deadline focus on when you got things done on time and put yourself mentally in that state of mind. This will give you the confidence to do anything because you know that if you did it once you can do it again.

Eat raw organic fruits and vegetables and take some St. Johns Wort

We all know the benefit of fruits and vegetables but St. Johns Wort has been proven in study after study and in clinical trials to cure and eliminate depression. If you take Prozac or any other kind of anti-depressant you can save your money because once you start taking 3 to4 tablets of these a day you’ll feel the benefits for yourself.

Listen to good music

Someone once said that when you listen to music you feel no pain. Think about how you feel when you’re listening to music you love and enjoy. Nuff said!

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