Monday, November 26, 2007

How to never make the same mistake in life again

We all make the same mistakes again and again.

Most of the time it's something simple like forgetting our keys or tripping over an object.

Sometimes it's a little more serious than that.

Some of us continuously make the same devastating mistakes in our relationships and in other important situations in life.

As a result, we're left to deal with the pain and suffering of our decisions.

This is understandable but thankfully curable.

Many of us have heard the old Albert Einstein quote that the essence of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again hoping for a different result.

Very nice. But the multi-genius never explained why we continuously make the same mistakes time and time again.

So why do we?

Because we don't learn from them.

Well, how do you learn from your mistakes?

Now that is the question that has to be answered!

90% of all decisions we make in life we make with our emotions or feelings.

We rarely make a decision based on logic or cause and effect.

In other words, before you make a decision you should base that decision on the consequences of that action.

But many of us make decisions out of an emotional attachment without ever thinking of the consequences.

This is why many of us make destructive decisions in life and struggle until we die.

The trick is to use your emotions, but use them in a way in which the consequences, or the potential consequences are apparent.

Take Gina for example.

Gina has a thing for abusive no good men.

She knows that they're only gonna treat her like dirt but she has an emotional and sometimes physical attachment that's possessed her into thinking she can't break free.

We've already talked about ways to dis-obsess yourself with someone, but she still hasn't been able to break this attachment because it's rooted deep within her.

Is she destined to live a life totally dependent on the whims of dangerous men?

Or is there something that can be done to stop this?

Whenever you want to stop making the same mistake, focus on the worst case scenario that can come out of that mistake.

So if she has problems with these men she should take about five to ten minutes (maybe more)to think about just how bad things can get if she goes down this road again.

She can think about this man potentially being a down low brother and infecting her with aids, or running off with her money, or laughing hysterically with his friends about how he played her or some other bad situation to remind her of why she shouldn't go down this road again.

Not only do you focus on this hypothetical but you actually imagine that it's actually happening!

Imagine how the scent that's in the air smells when this event is taking place.

Imagine how someones face might look when this event is going on.

Bathe yourself in the experience, close your eyes and actually live it out in your mind.

That way, when you wake up and find out that you can avoid this incident with just a simple decision, you'll be thankful that you had the courage not to make that decision.

This works with anything big or small.

If we know that the vast majority of our decisions are going to be made with our emotions than it's best to associate negative emotions with those decisions that are undesirable.

If we know it's no good for us it's best to do this.

Focusing on the benefits is also a key motivating factor, but thinking about the worst case scenario is effective also because it's absolutely frightening when done right.

Be careful, this is a powerful technique.

But if you can master this technique, you'll never make the same mistake twice.

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Ananda said...

Your wisdom was just what I needed. Thank you for stopping by my blog. I will be back to read more of your words. Peace, Ananda

Okra Afrika said...

Powerful post! Life is a series of lessons and resultant choices thereof. Unfortunately, many of us have not been given the tools to recognize this. We are not taught the proper workings of cause and effect. Understanding the workings of cause and effect is essential to the realization of a meaningful, willful, planned, destiny. This is the first pillar of truth for the realization of freedom. Instead many of us have become victims of life’s circumstances without the ability to properly influence the course of events surrounding us, like rudderless ships susceptible to the whims of life’s waves or leaves blowing in the wind.

Brother Okra


Ebonne said...

i like how you associated the Dave Chappelle Rick James pic with this post

Fantasyeyes said...

What you described is known as the essence of stupidity. Which is doing the samething over and over and expecting a different result. People need to get it together.