This is a good way to get whatever you want from a person within reason.The bigger the favor the more time you have to spend working on these habits before you actually ask them.If you are dealing with customers or potential customers of course, you do not have a lot of time.You may only have a minute so it is best to practice perfecting these skills in your own mind then try them for little things then work up to the big stuff.This formula is also a good one for motivating yourself to do the things you need to do in life.This is a very valuable skill because we all want favors from others but many of us are afraid to ask because we think they'll say no.You can convince anybody to do anything for you if you ask for what you want in the right way, and this post is going to show you how.
#1 eliminate alternatives
Make it seem like it's your way or the worst decision imaginable. When you give a person only a few choices they will tend to judge quicker than if you gave them a lot of choices. Make the number of choices no more than three with two choices being the best suggestion. Say as if you want somebody to go out with you and you want to use this strategy. You can give them the benefits of choosing you to go out on a date with (excellent conversation, go to a nice restaurant, I’ll be a perfect gentleman) or give them a negative alternative (stuck in the house watching other people live their lives instead of you living yours, missing out on a possible opportunity to have a good time or whatever). Make it something even worse than this if you can. But limit their options because they are more likely to say yes if they don't see any other alternatives.
#2 designate a specific time and place
if you don't people will take forever to do it and you have to let them know they may not get another chance to act. Have the time period already scheduled in advance (have back ups just in case they can't do it then) and if possible give the person enough time to prepare for it (maybe a month or two). If you have to do it now it's ok, it can still work. If you are using this skill whether it's now or later always be as specific as possible. Time, place date etc.
#3 Get them up and moving
Get the person to move in some way, sit down, do a small favor for you, reach for something etc. Once they do something we ask and physically move their bodies to do it they'll be more likely to do something else (what we really wanted them to do in the first place). It's the law of consistency. When we do a small favor for someone it also strengthens our belief that we must like them in some way. Some will reject doing this small favor because they'll see it off the bat. When they do this use some other strategies first then come back to that one because this one is very important. If you think you need to think of another small favor to ask. Remember, you should always plan in advance seems tedious but the possibilities for getting what you want are endless.
#4 Always have HIGH EXPECTATIONS
Super duper important. We must exude confidence and assuredness when we are requesting something. This means that we must have a preconceived conviction that whatever we ask they'll deliver. This is the main problem with us and relationships. We just know that things are going to eventually turn out bad so let’s get what we can get now while before the rough times come. This is called low expectations and a self fulfilling prophecy. It is bound to happen because when you think something is going to happen you prepare for it thus never giving the other person a chance to prove you wrong. In fact you don't even want him to prove you wrong because you don't want to be wrong. This might not be a good thing to do.Instead be confident that the person will say yes by acting as if they already said yes right after you asked them. Get the paperwork ready, thank them profusely, take the next action you would normally take as if the person already said yes.
#5 Make the whole process sound super easy
Tell them that what you require them to do only takes a few simple steps. If possible make the steps sound as pleasing as possible. No more than two or three easy to do steps. This is called single tasking as opposed to multitasking (doing many different things).
#6 Offer something extra for taking action
A nice additional bonus always sweetens the deal. This additional feature gives them an extra incentive to take action and it doesn't have to be big. It could be something real simple (a trip to the movies on the way back, a gift card or a hug lol). It doesn't matter what it is as long as it is nice and it is added as result of fulfilling your initial request.
#7 Get them to like you first
Of course you may only be able to do this if you have many different interactions with people. This is why if you have customers always pleasantly ask for their information and follow up with calls or e-mails that are heavily drenched with strategies that get them to like you. Then once the person has an affinity for you offer him the product that you wanted to sell. If possible always establish relationships (this why the rich stays rich and the poor stays poor).
These behaviors can be used in many different ways for many different reasons. So knock yourself out. These are so easy to remember and do. Give it a few measly stinking hours out of your life and I can guarantee you will get some wonderful results that may change your whole life in a way that you've never imagined. Okay, which one of the seven did I use just then?
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