It really goes to the heart of what I’m trying to do in terms of giving concrete, workable solutions to our problems.
The majority of our solutions come from working hand and hand with others.
This will help us to get a better job, more discounts because of the buddy system, more breaks, more of everything we want in life because when people like us they’ll be there to help us out when we need it.
The ones who are pretty good at getting what they want from people have perfected thes skills whether consciously or unconsciously
This is why we have to do these things on a consistent basis
All meaningful relationships begin with these seven steps
Most of us try to act like we are dependent, but we all want to be liked by others
You should practice these steps whenever you have a chance
Some things you can visualize in your own mind
Some ideas you can get from others by seeing how they relate to others
These steps will help you to get something out of somebody even if you’ve done them wrong in the past.
Note: they don’t have to be done in any specific order
Sometimes you might only need one or two; sometimes you might need all seven
#1– Associate yourself with positive things
Create a positive mental image in the person’s mind; describe a beautiful vacation you are planning on having; learn a lot of funny jokes and tell them whenever you are around this person. Get them to talk about a positive experience they’ve had. Make them feel good by making them feel that when they come around you something positive is going to happen.
#2– Bring out the things you have in common
This step in and of itself can get the other person to like you in a heart beat, especially if the experience that the two of you shared was intense (like fraternity/sorority rituals or war stories). Doesn’t matter how small or insignificant it seems bring it up because it furthers the possibility that this person might genuinely like you; don’t over do it though.
#3- Emulate them whenever you can
We like those who imitate us. It’s funny but true. Even if you don’t think so you do so on a subconscious level. Whenever you are around this person and they put emphasis on a certain word wait a little while and speak it in the same way. If they cross their legs wait a little while and do the same. Before you mimic them make sure you wait a little while.
#4- Let the person know that you like and respect them by telling them so and by constantly keeping in contact with them
It’s important to let them know that you like them because this follows the law of reciprocation. This law states that we seek to give others what we were given from them. This is a powerful law. And you should be around them as much as possible. Some people might think that we eventually get tired of these people but actually, after a while they tend to grow on us. If you can’t be there physically, call, e-mail, text message to let them know that you are constantly thinking about them (not in a stalker’s way though).
#5- Be genuinely kind and warm and have a positive attitude whenever you are around them
Always see the positive in everything no matter how bad things seem. Always have a positive solution to every problem and make sure that you are nice and kind whenever you associate with this person. It doesn’t do any good to try and convince the person of how great you are, you will show your greatness when you are authentically pleasant and courteous even when times are hard.
#6- Get them to do a small favor for you
Something real simple is best. It doesn’t have to be anything big just make sure it’s something. You do this because when you do something for somebody there has to be a justification for it. So they’ll be willing to like you more because they don’t do something for people they don’t like.
#7- Whenever you make a mistake in their presence laugh about it
See the person with low self esteem and a low confidence level will try to act as if it didn’t happen thus showing they are ashamed of what happened. But the truly confident person isn’t afraid to reveal their flaws and realizes that having a sense of humor is necessary in order to get people to like you.
Some aditional stuff:
It always helps to smile, keep good eye contact and have good posture
these things will help you even if you are not feeling up to par
make sure you stretch a lot too (might wanna try yoga) because the body is most relaxed when the nerves and muscles are relaxed.
And have high expectations that everything will work out
When you have high expectations that things will go according to plan they usually do even if some unexpected things come up.
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